should parents spank their children?

Question

i think parents should spank their children what bout u? give reasons y...

Answer 1

Yes. Its easy to look at all the bratty activity going on since parents stopped spanking their kids.

The have no discipline, no manners, theyre obnoxious and sickening. They dont have any respect for anyone or anything and they dont appreciate c.r.a.p.

Spank the little monster, thats what I say.

Answer 2

Spanking is a judicious punishment meted out by a parent or guardian to impart a lesson without causing injury. When a person hits somebody, it is usually done out of either meaness, self-defense (which is okay), or the selfish anger of not getting what they want. Spanking is not sexual any more than giving a child a bath (which also involves touching). Children are spanked on the butt because it is a safe area with no bones near the surface of the skin. I agree in telling children to stop first. It is when a child doesn't stop, or breaks a clearly understood rule that spanking becomes necessary. Children have been spanked for as long as parents have been having children. This is because spanking has been proven to work, as opposed to time-outs which have only become popular in the last 30 years or so (Unless you think children are much better behaved nowadays, than they were back then). Even other animals such as cats and dogs swat (or bite) their young. Pain is a universal teacher, and it is the parents' job to teach children good habits, practices, and attitudes. It is natural to weigh the risks vs the rewards of doing what we want. Spanking helps, more than other punishments to overcome the natural urge to do wrong. A child at first may only choose to obey her parents because she is afraid of a spanking. Over time, obedience will become a habit. A child's behavior is a reflection of how well the parents have taught. Sometimes parents have to make hard choices to correct misbehavior, bad attitudes, and to prevent future wrongdoing. Children are not granted the authority to spank. They an not take away other people's privileges either. They cannot ground parents or stand them in the corner.

Answer 3

Althought some people think I am oversimplistic--I think there is way too little spanking--and I believe it is an important component of raising and instilling discipline in children.Although this is a stupid analogy--a paddle does a good job of keeping the boat headed in the right direction.

Although I was spanked as a kid I was convinced in college that it was inappropriate. So I did not at first spank when I had my own kids. To make a long story short--in the course of being a Mom I changed my tune and decided my parents were not so dumb and old fashioned after all.

I know that anectodal stories are not very useful--but that is the major reason I spank--it works for me. I also think it is fairer and less mean than punishments like time outs and groundings. A spanking gets the punishment over and the air is cleared. The other things drag the thing out. I don't want to be a parental jailer. With younger kids I think the whole point of why they are being punsihed is lost. With older kids it is no more of an effective punishment and inspiration to strive for better behavior than jailing adults is.


I think if more parents would spank--and do it correctly--they would be very surprprised by the results they get. And I don't mean for every little thing but not just as a last resort either. The real key to making it work is consistency.

I should also mention all the research that has been done on this subject showing it is bad. These are all statistically flawed. Infact to the surprise of one researchers who surveyed all the research--he found it to be the most effective method of getting children to comply with the wishes of their parents. If you are interested in seeing details on these studies there is a blog entry buried on my blog called "A Critique of the Anti-Spanking Research."at http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-GgIFACYzfqWx8YwvtspSWVmWzA--?cq=1&p=793

There is a reason parents have been spanking since time immemorial. The anti-spanking movement is very new. And like a lot of new untested ideas I am convinced it is wrong.

Answer 4

I spanked my children when they were little and they are fine. I have spanked my grandson as well. I got spanked, so did my mother and her mother before her. Spanking a child doesn't mean that you are abusing them or you want to bully them. I was told once by a friend who is a pediatrician as well as a teacher of parentling classes, that you only need to hit a child once per each offense anything more then that is for yourself. When you think about it she's right. The point is to stop the child from that behavior. I see no reason why not to spank your child. It would really be a matter for each person to decide.

Answer 5

Today they call it abuse...I think when a child has done something that could have hurt them or possibly killed them, spanking them, not beating them, can be necessary. I grew up with getting spanked, and I had nothing but respect for my parents.I see children in the stores throwing themselves on the floor, beating their heads against it, screaming, and even spitting on their mother.Instead of spanking them, now they are medicating them. Beatings are abuse, spanking them just lets them know to straighten up! Some parents go way over board, and spank their children for everything, they should only get a spanking when it is absolutely necessary. Parents today prefer medication, that's not breaking the law...my children are grown, and they didn't get many, but they did when I felt like they needed it. We have a very close relationship,and most important, they respect me!

Answer 6

Corporal punishment is a valid form of discipline when used properly and not abused. The reason so many wimpy parents don't like it is because they've been feed a bunch of psychobabble for years that they are doing damage to their child by doing so. In fact, Kofi Annan, the savior of the humanistic universe, recently pushed through a resolution which called to an end to violence against children throughout the world...a wonderful thing, until they start equating adolescent genital mutiliation to spanking! moron!

Frankly, I wish my parents had spanked me more...I have little self-discipline or self-reliance, and it's directly connected to the lack of disciplanary direction I was given growing up.

Spare the rod and spoil the child. That's the big problem here, it's Biblical, so the world despises it, and thinks it knows a better way.

Answer 7

In my opinion, a child should never be hit. Hitting is never the answer. It HURTS. Children don't deserve to be hurt. I know children misbehave sometimes, but there are other punishments that could be used. Time out is one that my kids use on their children. I know time out is not good for everything tho.
I know that taking a privilege away works well too. Example:
Recently, my oldest granddaughter was being punished for talking back to her mother. She called me , told me she was grounded and couldn't do some of the things that were coming up for her at school. She loves sports, so taking that away really hurt. She cried so hard and I told her that she had to do what mommy said. That I couldn't change it. I advised her to go to her mommy and give her a hug, tell her that she was sorry that she had talked back and that she would try really hard not to do it again. She went to her mother, while I waited on the phone...and did give Mom the hug and she apologized. Mom still carried out some of the punishment but did let her play in her basketball game. So, taking away something that is really important seems to work.

Answer 8

Hell yes! I wouldnt say child abuse spanking but kids are getting out of control and that timeout bs is a bunch of bull. They need a spanking sometimes maybe they wouldnt be so disrespectful if they had some discipline in their lives. Some kids just do whatever they want because they are accustomed to being put on punishment or having something taken from them. But if you beat that ***, they wont be so quick to do something wrong.

Answer 9

I'm a mother of 3 and a spanking doesn't hurt every now and then .but there is a difference between spanking and abusing.if more parents spanked there kids they wouldn't live in fear of what there child may do when they get older spare the rod spoil the child

Answer 10

I do. and here is the reasons why.
1. children that have spankings are less apt to be hellions.

2. they also will know that for every mistake there is a consequence and will be less apt to repeat said actions.

3. When they grow up they will not be like all these self centered ignorant it takes a f*cking village types that piss on everyone that differs from their mind sets.

4. If you desire proof look at the older generations crime stats for kids vs todays. All that liberal 60's thinking from all those acid dropping hippie college kids has warped today's society and we all are paying for it now.