Will my son ever be able to get off taking speed?

Question

He has been taking it every day for 3years I have only just found out and I`m devastated. he thinks theres nothing wrong with it but
he had to be sectioned he went crazy. Life will never be the same again. He`s 39 and gay. but we all love him.

Answer 1

was hooked on speed for about four years, was hard.i have been clean 12 years now. was hard but it is possible.am sorry to hear what your going threw.hard on you and son both.you might try talking to somone like local priest or drug rehab for advice.wish i could help more. sry...will say a prayer...good luck

Answer 2

Recovery from meth is a long and very hard process and honestly, there are not very many successes. I think the percentage is something like 8% are able to get clean and stay clean. I have almost 10 years of sobriety and the what got me to stop was my family. I didn't want to put my kids and husband through the turmoil anymore. Get a group of his friends together and contact a 12 step program to help you with an intervention. But if you are enabling him in anyway, you need to stop that right away. Check your local listings on TV for a show called "INTERVENTION" on A & E, watch the show and see what i'm talking about and then seek help. You have a hand in this and you can help the problem or you can assist it. I am not saying that it's your fault, it isn't, i'm just saying there are a lot of ways that people enable and so you have to make sure that what you are doing, if anything, is helping your son or hurting him. Call NA for some guidance

Answer 3

Depending on how serious his addiction is the only answer may be putting him into a inpatient treatment program(DETOX) and hopefully he can beat it there.His biggest problem is that he thinks that doing speed is OK so the detox program is going to have to first change his way of thinking while at the same time weaning him off the speed.You did not know say he has medical insurance that will cover the cost of the treatment or if he has substantial savings or other assets because the treatment program is very expensive but then again even if you have to pay for it yourself the cost is less than the cost of your son dying.

Answer 4

he's got a big problem (and so do you). I feel so sorry for you. When you raise your kids, you do your best and hope and pray they'll turn out alright but you never know. Since he's 39, I doubt he will listen to your worries, but keep trying. Maybe the time will come when he realizes he needs help. In the meantime all you can do is love him and be there when he needs you. (but don't give him money or pay his bills, let him move in with you and all that, because that is just enabling him.) keep encouraging him to get help. If he has another section situation, that would be a perfect time to get him into a rehab program. find one now and have someone lined up ready to step in.

Answer 5

So sorry to hear of your son , But sadly the answer is a most definite NO ! My dear friend is exactly the same he has been taking the stuff for about 5 years and he has mentally "flipped" he has split from his family lives in a b&b paid for by the dhss and now walks around like a tramp , i only met up with him again by chance a few months ago and i immiediatly brought him home with me , give him a bath / clothes / meals etc , i really thought we had this thing beat he became withdrawn / unrestless , and it really screwed his head up , he was back on the road to recovery i thought , then one night 3 weeks ago he went to the local shop , and he has never returned ! i have scoured everywhere for him but cannot find him , people have seen him about but he is back on the stuff again looking like he did that day i found him .I wish you luck you have a long hard fight on your hands !

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your pain.

He may need an intervention. I don't know what you know about them but they can work and you can gather his loved ones (friends, family, significant other) to force rehab. There are professionals who will help you do it.

Watch the show Intervention on A & E to see it in real life. If he is a reader you should pick up Augusten Burroughs' DRY. A book by a gay author about his age who went to rehab after an intervention who too thought nothing was wrong.

Search online for a support group for families of NA (Narcotics Anonymous), they will have more information.

Keep your faith and continue to push to get him the help he needs. Telling you was the first step toward getting him there.

Answer 7

He has to WANT to get off of it first. I was a meth addict for 2 years. My life changing moment was when i heard this voice telling me not to go over to my friends house to smoke it.I ignored it of course and made it not even a mile from my house and got into a car accident. Havent touched it since. Try doing an intervention because that is some nasty stuff. Just pray for him and i wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

you should really ask your son not us but honestly it's impossible to change a person no matter how hard we try, as the matter of fact we cannot change this world and thanks to all these people for their contribution to make this world the worst living place. the fact is he will only stop when he really face the most devastating situation in his life, maybe not too...hard to tell but there's only so much we can do. not all people learn from their mistakes, that's why there are so many trouble makers in the world, that's why you and me are living in a 'sad' world

Answer 9

Hi!

I know what your going through, as my sister was sectioned a few years back(3-4) under the mental health act, for drug-indused psychosis, she did whatever she could get her hands on (we later found out), to escape the realities of life & had some other issues......
So know how your feeling, the shock of everything being out in the open after such a long time, is not a pleasent surprise to say the least, but at least now, you know he needs help, and you know that you can find some, try and get him to get some.

I can't really say for your son, but what I have learnt going through a member of family having substance abuse, and drastic action being taken against them for their own safety and the publics. Is that all you can do is be there for them, and try to understand why they felt, that they had to go to extreme measures to relieve certain issues in their mind/thoughts.

There's a saying, that is "you can take a horse to water, but you can't make it drink", which I think helped me come to terms that, whatever I thought or said to my sister, it wouldn't change much to her, as it's their own state of mind, that is the main issue, and that they have to see it for themselves, before they ask or admit that they have problems.

Like the majority of people who turn to self-destruction/drink-substance abuse, they have issues that they need to explain, find the root causes of, and turn to something that they know they enjoy, as they/their mind associates this, to a "nice" or good feeling to relieve the pain of depressing/dark thoughts.

I guess it's like all vices in life, whatever they are, people won't admit to them being a problem as they have a "good feeling" stigma associated to them.

I'm glad to say that my sister, is on a long road to recovery, and also has a gorgeous 6 year old daughter to care for, which we(family) like to think, keeps her/mind active enough, not to turn to self destruction, and hopefully she feels that she can talk to us, if needed.

I wish you all the best, as it will be a long hard/emotional road to go down, for which you will need to be there for him, whether he lets you or not, and hope that your son can see the error of his ways, before anything major happens........

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

drugs are very real and heartbreaking things to deal with the only way your son will ever stop is if he chooses to you cant force anyone to stop you can lock them up court order them to rehab whatever you choose but unless they choose in their hearts to stop it wont happen sometimes it takes a tragedy to wake them up i lost a son last month and within two weeks 4 of my other children went right back to it hard and heavy i prayed that his death would wake them up as his death was a result of being incarcerated in jail and being hurt by jailers that resulted in his death all you can do is pray for him and hope that he sees the light without a tragedy and i know its hard to accept but sometimes the only way a person will stop is if their own life ends i will pray for you and your son and please practice tough love should he start asking you for money to support his habit please dont give in as that would be contributing to his habit have a good day