Alrighty then- I'm a fifteen year old freshman. I'm sort of a tomboy, and I'm gothic. I've been told that I'm really hard to approach, and there's a guy that I really like in my symphony class. His friends told me that he likes me, but he hasn't made a move yet because I'm a little too intimidating. How do I tone down enough so that he can make a move???
2006-10-15 09:22:34 · 12 answers · asked by Tamaska of the Fallen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just try to tone down the gothic and loosen up. Let him see the fair side of you. Just wear jeans and shirts if you don't like dressy and frilly clothes and forget the black for a while.
2006-10-15 09:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a 15 year old freshman too ( im a guy tho).... if you want to tone down so that you arent as intimidating, then i'd say wear something a little less gothic maybe , b/c that might be why he's intimidated(unless hes gothic too)... also try smiling at him and talking to him some... that might make him feel more comfortable....he could just be really shy( like me ), and you might have to be the one that makes the move if you like him.
hope this helps
2006-10-15 09:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by seminolefan925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy can't like you for who you are, you need to move on. But, the other thing you can try is to ask him. You have been told by his friends that he likes you. You ask him out! He might actually enjoy that. I have been told the same thing about my personality, people like me but I am intimidating, not because of my size but because I have this take no crap attitude. I don't lose that for anyone because that is part of who I am. I don't even tone it down.
2006-10-15 09:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should "change" your personality for a guy.. just be friendly towards him.. smile at him. Give him a nod in the halls.
And who says he has to make the move, lol? Why can't you?
2006-10-15 09:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by enterthevault 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile at him often and wink at him every time you have eye contact. Say hello to him at least once a day...but not every time you see him in the hall because you don't want to appear desperate. He'll come around...
2006-10-15 09:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear white,(by the way theres nothing wrong with being gothic, if he dosent like that your not ment 4 each other.)
2006-10-15 09:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by nickisgreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change yourself to land a mate. . .EVER. If you feel you need to tone down because you feel like you need a change then do it for yourself. If a guy can't accept you as you are then you have no business with him.
2006-10-15 09:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act somewhat girly. Not like skirt-wearing makeup and cosmopolitan girly, just smile, flip your hair around, and laugh. Just like the person above me said.
Don't change yourself.
2006-10-15 09:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile, interact w/ others, make sure your body language is approachable (dont cross your arms over your chest, dont stand too strongly, dont put your hands on your hips) and when you talk, nod; it shows that you are positive & agreeable.
2006-10-15 09:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and giggle alot. Thatll make you seem friendly and he wont be scared to come up to you. :]
2006-10-15 09:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋