2006-10-15 09:14:49 · 6 answers · asked by pepsigirl_1992 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you believe that you're not good enough, interesting enough, or pretty enough...
All of that is just simply NOT TRUE...
What I would simply suggest, if you feel like you're ugly... Take a strong look in the mirror... You can't change everything... Hairstyle, makeup, lipstick, eye shadow... You KNOW what looks good...
What would you say are your weaknesses in your looks? I have a big nose, I have beady eyes.... Find ways to deaccentuate your nose and accentuate your eyes... Blending of colors, different layers... Go to a make up counter with your mom and let them show you tips, hints, and ideas. Have you seen some of these actresses without makeup??? They spend 100s of thousands of dollars to make themselves look good.
Try some different things with your hair... Let it grow out if it is short... Most guys love long flowing hair... Different conditioning so it will look soft and glowing...
When other girls say, "What happened to you? My gosh, you look fantastic.." Boom.
What's more the guys will also take notice!!!
Do you think that just because you're nervous around a guy that you lack confidence meeting the guy? Nervous is normal for both GUYS and girls... Just realize that if you focus less on yourself and more on others, you will feel less nervous. It is a perceived outcome for an unknown situation. Will he like me? What if he says I'm ugly? You won't know until you try.
Once you simply take him off the pedestal and treat him like a human being like you'd like to be treated. Things will appear quite normal and you'll wonder why you didn't try it sooner...
It's just a guy... What's the worst that can happen? He embarrasses you, calls you names... Let me ask you something quite plainly... What would you do if you saw some other girl, a friend, who really liked a guy get teased or ridiculed by some jerk?
Do you head toward the girl or the guy? I suggest you march right up to the guy and say, "You call yourself a man? You're nothing but a rat. A dirty disgusting rat..." He's going to want to date a girl eventually... He gets the reputation of being a rat... What future does he have?
So let's say you're the girl and some guy says, "Why would I want to go out with an ugly, gutter trash, skank like you?" Is it the truth? Look him square in the eye and say, "Thank you... Now that I know what you're really like... You look like a man, but you're really a disappointment when you get up close."
"WHAM... He can act tough and cool, but he was told off by someone that he had no respect. If he did it in front of other guys... How is he going to live it down?" DUDE, she told you off!!!
I think you simply need to realize that you are worthy of a guys attention... You probably are hard on yourself... To me, all girls are diamonds... Sometimes you just have to polish them up before you truly see the beauty... When some guy comes along and takes you by the hand... He thinks you're the cat's meow... Think of all the nervous anxiety it took for him to get rid of to talk with you.
I want you to remember that all the anxiety and nervousness was unneeded...
Go out there, be yourself, market your pluses... YOU have pluses, you may not realize it yet. But you do!!! Everybody does.
Just keep your head up and stop looking down on yourself.. When all you see is lemons, stop crying that you don't have apples... There are guys who like lemonade!!!
It's going to happen... Prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically for that day...
Go get 'em girl... Make them eat their hearts out...
2006-10-15 09:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love yourself first. You know your positive attributes. Make sure you appreciate those things about yourself first. Realize that we all have things we would love to change about ourselves. But, they key is to push those thoughts away, and love yourself for who you are. Then, you get your own confidence for the right reasons. I don't know if people are telling you to or not, but never change who you are. People will love you for you!
2006-10-15 09:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a positive outlook on life. Try looking at http://positiveattitude.hammocksurvivalguide.com/
It contains over 300 articles.
Having a happy outlook on life is a very attractive quality to most people.
2006-10-19 03:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, do things that can improve you as a person, your appearence, exercise and build yourself from inside out. This will give you confidece and that same energy will attract people to you.
2006-10-15 09:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and feel confident about talking to people first and then gradually get to know guys and most importantly feel confident with yourself
2006-10-15 09:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by laydeeheartless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always like to think the best way is to pretend. confidence is merely something in your mind. if you pretend you are confident you will become confident
2006-10-15 09:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by pasapoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋