What do I do when you boyfriend is jealous of another girl?

Question

ok I have been dating this guy for a long time. and I started this job like 5 months ago and every wednesday there is a girl that comes into work and she hits on me. at first I thought I was just overeacting until my boyfriend came to pick me up from work last wednesday. she was in the lobby with me and I said "this is my boyfriend "and he went to go shake her hand and say hi and she gave him this weird look. he said well honey lets go. I said ok. she is all wait arn't you going to tell me good bye. I gave her a hug and she grabed my face and straite macked on me. I pulled away and she grabed my boob. I pushed her off asked her what is wrong with you! and walk away. My boyfriend now says he doesn't want me to go back to work if " If I am going to get melested by my co worker." I can't not go to work I need the money but I don't want to get anyone in troble but I don't want my bf to get made at me cuz I go back to work with her. any advice

should I just tell on her for herassment

oh I am sorry harrassment I didn't know you ALL were stuck up.spelling isn't the point of this question so get past your self and just tell me what you think

Answer 1

Go back to work and handle this for yourself and your boyfriend.Running isn't going to help,stand up for yourself if you didn't want it or like it.But it sounds like you did want it cause you knew she wanted you and you did nothing to stop her.So the real question here is,why won't you go back to work?Is it because your not sure what you want?Are you now questioning your sexuality?See what happens when you do nothing and not be truthful with yourself? I'm not trying to dog you out but you have to make up your mind for you to be truly happy with you life,just saying you didn't have to hurt your boyfriend to find out.My feelings go out to him and you too.Now don't get mad,it's just the way i see it based on what you told us.

Answer 2

This seems a little odd....I think there might be more to this than what you are saying. I think that you are flattered that this girl likes you, even though you do not like her that way. Maybe you gave her an impression that you were interested and you weren't? If so, don't worry about it, many girls do they same thing, but you got yourself in a bind now. You need to tell the girl next time you see her that your friendship is off. I think that she is trying to get you and your bf to split up so she will have a shot at you. If that doesn't work then let your boss know whats going on. If you are truely innocent of any wrong doing then what can she say? nothing. Tell your bf to grow up, this is life. Its going to happen no matter where you are, next time it might be a guy doing it to you. You need to learn how to react to situations like this. You can not run from your problems, stay and fight for what is right. Bf's come and go, just put your foot down and let him know he isn't your father. And one more thing.....don't play at work anymore..:)

Answer 3

You need to get straight with her and let her know that if she ever touches you again like that, you will report her for sexual harassment. She stepped over the line and she needs to be told.
As far as your boyfriend goes, you can't let him run your life. Tell him that you have the situation under control, and he needs to butt out. If you feel too uncomfortable, you can start a job hunt, but don't just quit without another job to go to.

Answer 4

inform your boss about your co-worker's behavior. Your boyfriend probably just wants to look out for you since it IS illegal what she did as it is sexual harrasment.

In other words, she harrassed you sexually by A) kissing you, and B) grabbing your boob. Plus she did it to cause your boyfriend to react, which is part of first ammendment the freedom of expression part (there's a part to it that has been decided by courts that if you do anything that would cause someone to react in a negative way then your freedom to express yourself in that instance is void.) So: C) she was trying to force your boyfriend to react either by assaulting her (heh. makes me laugh) or by stiring him up into anger.

If that's not enough to inform your boss of your co-worker's behavior then just quit your job for your boyfriend's sake.

Your boss will either fire her for sexual harrasment (even though you may or may not press charges) or he'll dicipline her severly for doing so and probably make sure she doesn't work when you do ever again.

Answer 5

Well what she has done is harrassment - so yes I would tell on her. Just think if a guy was doing the same thing and even went as far to physically molest you you wouldn't keep quiet about it would you

Answer 6

First, tell her to leave you alone. If she continues to bother you, file harrassment. If your employer doesn't do anything about it, start looking for another job. And make sure that your boyfriend knows what you plan to do. That should hopefully keep him from having to feel jealous or worried about you.

Answer 7

go back to work. it's your job! if she comes hitting on you again, be assertive. tell her you're extremely uncomfortable with her attitude and if she does it again, you'll tell your supervisor. keep a serious straight face when you're tellin' her this so she gets the point. don't talk to her after that. if she contnues bugging you, tell the supervisor. tell your boyfriend to come visit you often so that he could see for himself how you're handling the situation. sitting at home and not going to work is an immature thing to do.

Answer 8

That's called sexual harrassment... Don't put up with it... Either she goes or you need to find another job...

Report it to your manager... She is creating a hostile work environment. It's unprofessional and will smear the name of the company eventually.

Answer 9

FIRST OF ALL, learn how to spell HARRASSMENT if you're going to tell on her. I would say that yeah it is a good idea to let your boss know. Other than that your boyfriend shouldn't be jealous :S its not like you're a lesbian I mean you are with him anyway.

Answer 10

Eww is she gay?!?! You should just like report her. She'll get fired for harrasing you! But talk to your boyfriend, say that you'll try to figure things out because you really need the money. Hope he understands:)

♥ ;; s a r a h