My friend confided in me that he is cheating on his girlfriend. She has absolutely no idea. From the surface they have a picture perfect relationship. He asked me what I thought about cheating. I told him she would probably rather him be a man and tell her the truth than be a coward in another woman's bed. Was that harsh? Am I wrong? Would women rather not know that their partner is cheating and live in ignorant bliss?
2006-10-15 09:05:25 · 30 answers · asked by vanity planning 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Despite what women say I think if it's a one-off on balance they would rather not ever know. Once cheating is out in the open the relationship is never the same and if we all knew the truth about our partners most children would be from a broken home soon enough because the split up rate would sky rocket.
2006-10-15 09:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a bit harsh but it was correct for the situation at hand. Women shouldn't be let in ignorant bliss about a cheating relationship. In fact, if a relationship has a cheating partner it probably isn't meant to be. In other words, you were right to say what you said.
2006-10-15 16:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing. They obviously do not have a great relationship if he feels the need to cheat. He should have been a man from the start and told her that things wernt going the way he thought they should and he wanted to see other people, but he thought he would be slick and cheat on her to make up for what he is not getting in there relationship. Eventually she will find out. He needs to come clean now and work from there!
2006-10-15 16:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by chippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to know the truth. His girlfriend is at risk of catching STD's. Some STD's, if they are not caught early enough, can cause the woman to have difficulties getting pregnant when she is ready to have children. It is the leading cause of infertility in females. Also she may catch herpes, or HPV. Some strains of HPV put women at a higher risk of developing cancer of the cervix.
You were right to tell your friend off. It's important to be honest with him because then he knows he can count on you to tell him the truth. That's what friends are for. A good friend will be straight up with you.
2006-10-15 16:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by funandsun20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of been harder on the guy. He is a creep. I am not sure about you telling the gf. Or maybe he told you hoping you would tell her. It is usually best to stay out of friends business.
It is morally WRONG for this guy to be cheating on his gf He is NOT to be trusted.
I am just not sure it is your place to tell her. Here is an idea. Tell him that if he doens't come straight with her then you tell him that if he doesn't tell her, you will.
Ask the girlfriend w hat she thinks about if a friend shoud tell a friend about a cheating bf. Then go from there.
2006-10-15 16:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he asked your opinion, he needs to be able to accept the answer you give him. Personally, I think he's totally wrong but felt guilty and told you because he doesn't have the guts to tell her. You could have told him anything you believe and I think you were actually easy on him. Women who don't want to know if their man is cheating on him only do this because they prefer to deny the truth than deal with it or accept it.
2006-10-15 16:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you was right for what you said. I would rather know my man was cheating. I need to have the choice to stay or leave.
2006-10-15 16:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was dating this guy for 2 years.. he was the first one i fell in love with and the first for a lot of things and then i come to find out after we broke up he had been cheating on me with a married woman that had a baby.. my ex took me to meet her when we were together ( i didn't know anything about the cheating) when i found out i was so heart broken.. everything that i ever thought about him or felt was all question.. i didn't come out of my house for days.. i felt used and violated and every time i thought about it i got sick.. she should know.. if u don't want to be the one to tell her tell someone else that you know will tell her.. but put yourself in her shoes would you want someone to tell you?
2006-10-15 16:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by doto7640 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was the other way around, yes I would want the truth. I wouldn't want to learn that later down the road and get my heart torn apart.
2006-10-15 16:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says to me that you are a person that has morals and your not about to ignore them just because he is your friend.A lot more people should follow your foot steps in situations like this and not overlook things that our friends do just for the mere fact that they are our friends
2006-10-15 16:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by ravenmo2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋