2006-10-15 08:52:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to realize that you need to meet your own expectations, not theirs.
If you are having trouble dealing with overly-critical parents who are trying to run your life for you, you can talk to a counselor who will help you and ease your stress from this situation.
If you are in school, there are counselors there, or there are pro bono counselors in the phone book who work on a sliding scale.
After a few meetings with a good counselor, I felt much better about my my mother and our relationship.
2006-10-15 08:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that they don't expect you to be perfect. If you have good intentions and you work hard they should respect you as a human regardless. If you have a bad attitude and your work ethic is poor or non-existent, I think you can expect a troubled relationship. Sometimes when humans enter their teen years they think they know too much and they tend to forget that their parents have been through almost the same thing.
2006-10-15 09:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of difficulty!! Depends on what ure parents are like - my dad is TERRIBLE at accepting anything that does not fit in with his view of life. At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you whilst making sure ure parents understand that you are not doing it to hurt or disappoint them but to make you happy and that if you could achieve both at the same time why wouldn't you.
2006-10-15 09:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by misscynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By realizing that you are not your parents anymore than they are you. Your life is your own and as long as you are meeting your own desires, expectations and needs, then you're doing well. Parents sometimes act as if they are their kids and live vicariously through them (think of the soccer Dads). Be your own person, be decent, and you will be fine.
2006-10-15 08:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best, they may never tell you to your face that they are proud of you. But it is a certainty that they will brag about you to everyone of their friends. I had the opposite problem, my parents had no expectations for me, so I never really applied myself, at 47 years I now have something I can call my own.
2006-10-15 09:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents expectations are just that.....THEIR expectations.
Live your life in a way that will make you happy and they will be happy for you... eventually.
But make sure you are truly happy... parents have expectations they feel will make you happy... it is truly your happiness that is their priority and when you don't live up to their expectations they are afraid for your happiness.
Just be happy with your choices....
2006-10-15 09:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them deal with it, You must deal with being yourself and dealing with your own expectations.
Tell your parents you're sorry that you've disappointed them, but you must be real not a robot for someone else.
2006-10-19 10:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit your parents down and talk to them, tell them you understand where they are coming from and you are trying your hardest but you are your own person and if you don't do as well not to be disappointed in you
2006-10-15 08:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont meet my parents standars and expections...i just say who cares!!! LOL
2006-10-15 08:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lakay aka Mizz B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋