okay well im a Freshman in highschool and i am dating a junior.. i thought he was a sophmore until he finally told me yesterday that he wasnt ... but we've only been together for a week and hes telling his bestfriend who i known for 4 years and my bestfriend that im the one.. he wants to marry me and have kids and im just not ready for that at all hes already told me he loves me and its been a week hes moving a lil to fast and i dont know how to end it without breakin his heart... please help
2006-10-15 08:43:57 · 23 answers · asked by Puerto Rican princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't love you after a week. Maybe he's trying to get some. In any case, make him a nice dinner and tell him after. Better that he hear it on a full stomach.
2006-10-15 08:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by robtheman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do two things:
1) Tell him you heard about his future plans, about getting married. Tell you you feel the same way and can't wait! Pick an un-reasonable date (like in 3 mths.) and suggest you go pick out Engagement Rings. You will pick out the most expensive one of course and continue in that vein. The most expensive caterers, flowers, hotel for the reception, Vera Wang dress for you and 10 bridesmaids and 4 flower girls (you come from a big family of course). Honeymoon will be in Fifi or anywhere in the South Pacific (the furthest away the better, the more expensive). Believe me, when "the boyfriend" sees how "serious" you are and what it will cost him, he'll back down real quick!
OR . . .
2) Start hanging out more with other friends. You know, threes a crowd and all that! Once he feels the two of you don't have any "alone time" anymore, explain to him it's High School. Your having fun and just want to have good memories and not be "tied down" to one person!
Good Luck!
2006-10-15 08:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by missbubbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. Just say it straight forward. I think that we are moving too fast. Or else you can ask him if he really said that because your friends could be making that up, they might just not want you to go out w/ that kid because they dont like him or something. It takes common sense. Do what your instincs tell you too hun. I am sure your gonna find the right way to tell him all the things you wanna. Good luck.
2006-10-15 08:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i see at least 4 red flags, your bf sounds exactly like a guy i dated. i dated a junior in my eighth grade year, he moved very fast, woundlt keep his hands off me, and he started talkin about marriage after he graduated from medical college about 3 weeks into the relationship. you should be careful with this guy because he sounds like a manipulator, and you should tell him how u feel, that the reltionship is goin way to fast, and if he gets mad, just break up with him and stay away from him. you and especially him are way to young to be gettin into a serious future marriage relationship, i made that mistake and its now made me wiser but scarred and untrusting with guys. you really need to end it and find a guy that you can date, but have fun with without anything serious. i really hope this helps and that everythin turns out ok.
2006-10-15 08:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Look I am a Freshman and have a lot of dreams to fulfill, I like you fine but you saying you love me after a week is too much too soon, so lets just be friends and see what happens". Don't make it a question and make it a statement. Your friend is a bit needy and your too young to be settled to anyone for a long while yet.
2006-10-15 08:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are waaaay to young to be discussing marriage and kids. You haven't even graduated yet! You have the right idea by thinking he's moving too fast. Because he is!!
Straight up tell him, "Look, i'm a freshman...14 years old...this is just too serious for me. I'm not looking for a husband...i'm looking for a boyfriend to have fun with."
You have the rest of your life to find a mate...high school isn't the place to look for one!
2006-10-15 08:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by [ Xtine ] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. People who fall in love fast also fall out of love fast. They tend to be "in love with love". Time will tell if he truly feels this way. Just wait a few weeks. You probably won't have to worry about breaking his heart because it'll be over as soon as it started.
2006-10-15 08:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by choc8qiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl to be sincere with u,that guy doesnt love u.He isn't honest to be a life partner, and for crying out loud,ur young.
If u truly love him, and u are sure he loves u,then tek him out some where,maybe one of he's favourite spots and tell him with all smiles but solidarity that u are not ready for marriage.He would see reasons with u if he loves u,maybe he can wait for u.But if he misplaces his speeches and manner,girl tek cover.
Even if he agrees to wait for u,u're still too young to be into engagement of any sort.U've gat to taste life.I don't really kno.U just decide.
2006-10-15 09:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by goody o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would want to look he suffers from lack of self belief and has have self belief themes. seek for suggestion from from him about the excuses he has those themes, with out focusing on the mistrust and accusations . If he wanders into that section back, gently education guide him back to the themes he has. If that would not artwork set an ultimatum : habit remedy of a few form or that's over.
2016-10-16 05:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by hoch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U want to end it? If it's just that he's moving 2 fast then just tell him.....If he loves u then u will break his heart. Tell him he's taking things 2 fast. And if u really just want to break all of it then just gently tell him. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-15 08:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋