I am 24 yr old male seeking advice. My lust problem started at 16. At the time, I was in severe mental pains with severe depression. I tried sports, reading books, riding bicycle, etc. to mitigate the pains. However, it would only dull pains temporarily and never fixed my depression.
At the time, I didn't even know depression is a serious mental illness. I felt I have to somehow overcome it with my mental strength.
The pain was just too much for me to bear and I desperately wanted to find escape route from it. I knew how bad, evil drugs, alcohol, tobacco, sex were. So I stayed away from them.
Then I found masturbation and porn and I was hooked to it instantly. I have never even thought it could be addicting cuz everyone said it is healthy and normal way to relieve tensions. Hence, I didn't feel guilty at all and have been using them as escape route until recently.
Now I am having to deal with lust problem on daily basis in addition to severe depression. Can you offer me advice?
2006-10-15 08:12:30 · 13 answers · asked by nicesinging1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to check in with your doctor ASAP. Medication and counseling session may be suggested and if so, GO.
2006-10-15 08:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating, porn, sex, and all that are normal... however, if it is interfereing or creating problems in other areas in life then indeed you have a problem.
If you are suffering from depression then indeed you have a problem.
These problems need counseling and possibly medication on a temporary basis.
Since you have tried different self help methods and it's not working then I would suggest meds. Your brain may be suffering from a chemical imbalance and the meds will balance these chemicals until your brain can do it on its own.
If your doctor prescribes meds without therapy find another doctor. You should never take meds as the only source of therapy because until you learn different methods of dealing with life the crisis will still be there once you are done with the meds and you will eventually be back where you are now.
Good luck!
2006-10-15 08:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to face whatever it is that is depressing you my friend and change it. Everyday we are given a chance to start over. If we don't like something in our lives, we can change it. The fact that you haven't shows a weakness and it's not hard to believe that you've tried filling the void with porn. However, you were misinformed about it not being an addiction. It can be just as addicting as drugs and almost just as destructible. Porn doesn't give you the reality of a committed relationship and a sense of completeness. It only satisfies your phycical urges and relieves tension. While that's viewed to not be a bad thing, it truly can be, especially if you've begun to tune out others because of your self gratification.
Get yourself into some good therapy and work out your underlying issues honey. There is a whole world out there full of great possibilities that you are missing out on.
2006-10-15 08:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think masterbation and porn is addictive it helps does it? Well if I was you I would get proffesional help go to a therapist or something it helps I was once in the same situation than you just keep yourself busy and leave the past behind look in front of you there is much more than you can imagine make your future a great one life is short do not waste any more of it xoxo ;)
2006-10-15 08:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into counseling. It will help you work through all of these problems. They have group support for sex addicts too if you really feel you need that, but check on the depression first as that's going to effect everything else in your life.
2006-10-15 08:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you can use contentwatch to protect your PC from porn site.
ContentProtect Internet Filtering Software provides top rated internet filtering and protection for homes & businesses. Find out why thousands of parents and businesses including Disney have chosen ContentProtect as their Internet Filter of choice.
you can get more information about ContentWatch.
http://network.sitesled.com/contentwatch.html
Good Luck && Best Wishes!
2006-10-15 20:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit cold turkey just throw out all ur porn and stuff and keep ur pants up unless you have to piss, sh-it, or shower and just dont do it and medication is avvailable for depressed people i suggest u get some... replace porn with a picture of a fat naked dude that should turn you off instantly.. lol hope that helps
2006-10-15 08:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by mel w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are actually counceling sessions for such problems with good advice and suggestions. There are people with very similiar situations. Look on the net.
2006-10-15 08:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek Woman... relieve tension and anxiety... this will relieve depression...
2006-10-15 08:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! you need to go to a doctor who specializes in your problem!
2006-10-15 08:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋