a girl living in a 3rd world country with only your mom in a small house, then one day you meet a nice handsome guy (Cute, good heart & smart). He declares that he likes you very much, and wants to invite you to America (Miami Beach, FL to be exact..) and also would like something more special in the relationship. What would you say? You are 21, and he is 19 , and we're in both in school. We've known each other since 2003 though we stopped talking from 04-05, and we started to talk again this summer of 06.
Asking this cuz sometimes I don't get her.........I've come to the conclusion that she is either scared of committing with someone like me, she's dumb, or not interested. Mixed signals are a bliss.
2006-10-15 08:11:25 · 11 answers · asked by FeverLust 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would think she is scared to death. If she comes here, to a new country (total new environment with new culture, new everything) she would see that she would be totally dependent on you. And that is scarey to anyone! You aren't saying you are committing to the girl for the long haul - like getting married - but to just have her join you. Can you imagine what it would be like for her if you suddenly left her when she got here?
She is probably also very close to her mom.
I moved across the country at age 18 with a new husband. It was like going to another country because the culture is so different, and I knew no one but my husband. I was a mess. I wasn't ready emotionally to leave my family or begin a new life without any family support. It was really hard.
Just thought I would share what it felt like and why she might be afraid. My husband could have loved me to pieces but I still would have been broken about leaving my mom.
Good luck to you and I hope this helps a little.
2006-10-15 08:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough. I think she is scared of committing. I would go but since she is in a third world country she might be afraid of this place. Just keep talking with her, she's not ready yet and you are both in school. And if she continues to give you mix signals then let her go.
2006-10-15 15:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Beach Blonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would a girl from a 3rd world country who lives with mamma want to go live in Miami Beach Florida?? I doubt she'll fit in!!
I'm gonna go with scared on this one.....
2006-10-15 15:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if she still lives with her mother, then she may have cut off communication between you two. Or maybe things got bad where ever she lives, and just decided to stop for a while. I can't really help. I'm confused myself.
2006-10-15 15:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is scared of leaving her family behind because that would stop me from going
2006-10-15 15:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a big step for her. what about her mom? would you let her come also? you might need to give it some time. you are only 19 you have your life ahead of you
2006-10-15 15:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, but there's a cultural difference. You have to earn her trust.
2006-10-15 15:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no clue whats going on
2006-10-15 15:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by my_emo_romance 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is scared
2006-10-15 15:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone close by
2006-10-15 15:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋