my mum doesnt go out herself as shes not keen on socialising.the last time she did was 3 years ago.she says i'll have to wait till kids are older to have a social life.tey are 3 and a half and seventeen months.i went out last-july.
2006-10-15 07:57:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ask a friend or two that had babysister for a reference or call the YMCA they have a babysitter class and maybe they will give you a name or two. Or just call a babysitter service for a name. You do need a night off once in awhile.
2006-10-15 08:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Minot_1997 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was reading Madea's book the other day and she gave an excellent suggestion on how single moms and otherwise could get a night -out. Here goes, get a group of about five friends who have kids, no more that two each, and have one mom babysit all the children, each mom taking turns. The mom who does the babysitting will be treated by all the other moms when it is her turn to go out.
Hint: Make sure you KNOW who these ladies are, do they love children, are they capable and will be willing to abide by the arrangements made. If this suggestion can't work for you, try getting a sitter from a reputable agency.
All the best with your night out.
2006-10-15 15:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with using a sitting service...
Questions to ask...
1. Have the sitters be background checked?
2. References and rating for individual sitter being hired?
3. Experience of sitter being hired?
4. Company check... i.e. check with the better business bureau (Or your countries equivalent)
5. Call the references and ask about their experience with the agency and sitter..
6. Write down detailed instructions for the sitter such as bedtimes foods to feed etc.
7. Interview the sitters with your children present see how the sitter interacts and reacts to your children , As well as your childrens interaction and reaction to the sitter.(it will help you choose the best sitter and will help your children as the person who sits for them will not be totally new to them)
8. Ask about special training (CPR both infant and toddler, and if your child has a special need ask about training for that)
Look at hiring a sitter that same as you would look at choosing an everyday day care center or school.. Do your research, take the time to make a wise choice, and you should have a wonderful experience.... Remember to not overuse the service you want a social life not to be footloose and fancy free... 1-2 times a month for an evening out with adults is perfectly fine...
You have done your research and have hired a responsible suitable sitter and you deserve a bit of off time now and again... Don't allow anyone to make you feel guilty for hiring a sitter occassionally all parents need a break now and again...
2006-10-15 15:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong just do a little backround check and try using an agency that has been recommended by a friend or colleague.Everybody needs to let of a bit of steam as kids can be very demanding i know i have 3 myself.
2006-10-15 15:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out! Everyone loves their kids, but it will make you insane to be with them without reprieve. Check out a couple different agencies. Tell the agency you've never used an agency before and are a little worried, and ask to speak directly with the person who will be watching your kids. That's a reasonable request and one that a reputable agency will be happy to honor.
2006-10-15 15:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by tomstrong83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everybody needs some time to hang out. I've tried a neighbor daughter who is 15 and it worked. Try to look at college students, they do babysitting. If all else fails look into a agency and I'm quite sure they do background checks on all their employees.
2006-10-15 15:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diffently find one that you feel comfy with. I agree I just had a baby 7 weeks ago and Im already feeling cooped up. You diff. need to get out of the house, just remember you will have to get up the next day and take care of the lil ones ( so go slow the first time.
2006-10-15 15:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by bitch_with_atitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it is not wrong. the key word is "reputable" so just make sure you trust whoever you decide to leave them with.
my mother is old fashioned and anti-social like that too, so don't worry about her opinion on what you do. everyone is different.
you deserve a break, so have fun.
2006-10-15 15:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you have a friend who could have them ore come to your house,perhaps a friend who has older children,or just get one from an agency you should go out if you want to,do you have a partner has he got any family who could do it....
2006-10-15 15:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋