my man is ready to take the next step to marriage, I love him so much, but marriage scares me so badly, its like most marriages never work out like they are suppose to... anyway heres the deal.. I know how much he cares for me, and I feel the same about him but first of all is it normal to be annoyed by someone whos supposedly your soul mate... ? I feel that surley there is not one person in this world for everyone to spend every day of thier life with and not get anoyed ever!? secondly people tell me you just know when their the right one for you.... it that true? because I dont just know! Marriage is a big step for anyone and everyone around me is just jumping into it... does that mean they all know who there marrying is the one for them? and that my man isnt right for me, because Im not ready to just jump into it? I've been seein him now for over 2 years... we enjoy eachothers company (well when for some hes not getting on my nerves) He is most definitly my best friend? so????
2006-10-15 07:52:05 · 13 answers · asked by Trish83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't get married until you are mature enough.
2006-10-15 08:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by JistheRealDeal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's normal to be annoyed by your "soul mate".
To me it sounds like you are comfortable right now with him and way thigns are going. As far as marriages not working out....it's usally because of people just jumping into them, as you said. You will know when you are ready to get married and maybe you just aren't. If he's really the one for you and you guys are ment to be together then he'll understand and wait for you. Don't worry about what society or friends or family say.....go by what you think is right. If you get married only because everyone else says it's time, then ask yourself; who's getting married to who here?
Good luck....and many best wishes, here. :)
2006-10-15 15:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kyanadri82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get much past the "marriages never work out" hon they don't work out because both people are not willing to work at it, it is not all fun and games, it is hard work that has to be worked at 24/7/365, there is no break from being married if you are not willing to work at it then maybe you are not ready to be married.
2006-10-15 16:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should be annoyed by your soulmate because people who are happy all the time in their relationship and never have an argument or a difference of opinion usualy get sick of eachother. i know from experiance i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we fight like rabid dogs sometimes but wer still inlove and happy together. and marrige is scary no matter if your ready or not if you feel like you truly wanna spend life witht his guy then go for it. As long as you both are happy what more could you ask for (aside from lots and lots of oral sex lol)
2006-10-15 15:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your idea of marriage seems very immature.....I wouldn't get married right now until YOU grow up just a tad!!! You need to have a realistic view of marriage.
It's not always a fairytale...not for anyone - even fi you're soul mates.
2006-10-15 15:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if after all is said and done when he gets on your nerves , you can look back and you still love him with all your heart, then yes marry him. one thing to do is be honest and ask him if there is anything about you that gets on his nerves. you both must be able to be honest with each other,and not let petty things get in the way of your love for each other. one thing my grand mother used to say if you love him enough to eat the crotch of his underware then you love him enough to marry.(ha/ha). now who would do that? always have a since of humor about life thats the only way to live it. so if your happy and can laugh about life with him then yes marry him.
2006-10-15 15:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by ronnie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to do a bit of soul searching. No one can tell you whether you should get married or not. Thats something you must decide for yourself. its natural to be a bit scared its something new in your life. But too many worries and questions means you arent ready yet.
2006-10-15 15:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by lainie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never really had that 'he's the one' feeling about my husband. And yes, it's normal to be annoyed by the person. However, if the annoyances outweigh the plusses, he may not be the right one for you. Good luck.....
2006-10-15 19:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows for sure but you, but if you have all these doubts, then you are most definitely not ready for marriage!
2006-10-15 22:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any hurry? if you dont feel like marying - dont. just let your boyfriend know that before he askes you to:) well, just say "oh this couple got married.. i think they are too much in a hurry, i wouldnt do that so fast.. i dont think marrige is that important.. dont know if i would ever feel ready to get married.. bla bla bla" Men dont propose when they are not sure the answer is "yes" :))
good luck!
2006-10-15 15:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by skraidanti_karve 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's just your best friend and not your "soul mate"... If he is the one, you will definitely know it in your heart.
2006-10-15 15:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by Whatever 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋