if i am not the most attractive guy but i want to ask a girl out how should i approach this matter?

Question

i am a large man

Answer 1

Saying or feeling that you are unattractive is not the best way to get a girl to like you. Girls like confidence. A lot of unattractive guys have no problem getting girls because they carry themselves with a lot of confidence. Who cares if you are a large man, that doesn't mean that you can't be attractive! Most girls don't like beanpoles anyways!

Answer 2

First stop thinking of yourself like that....
I like a man for who he is rather than what he looks like or what he has what matters to me the most is how he treats me.
I like a man who has manners, opens doors is polite etc...
A man who reads me poetry, tells me stories about his day and his life I want to know about him where he came from what made him the man he is today.
Show this girl what a great guy you are do something different ask her to a poetry reading or to take a walk with you at twilight maybe just sit on a porch swing and talk.

Answer 3

Tall broad shouldered large of large tummy large? Just ask her out. The worst thing she can say is no. I'm not the most attractive gal in the world ether.

Answer 4

if looks are lacking, being nice and friendly goes a long way. and persistance!! Find out what she likes, then offer to give it to her. Example, Find out what food she likes, then offer her take her to a restaurant that serves it or if for instance she likes live theatre or music, say you have an extra ticket, ask her to go with you, if she says yes then go buy some tickets. If she's single and unless she really doesn't like you for some reason, there little chance she'll say no. free dinner or entertainment. if she says no the first time, she now knows you like her and may start seeing you in a different way over time, keep asking her out everytime you see her.

Answer 5

With humor. You have to be able to balance one or the other out. If you get my drift??? Some women understand that just because your good looking doesn't always mean you have personality and humor to back it up. I have dated many good looking guys and they had no personality. Most women like a man to be humorous and have an outgoing personality. Especially one that can communicate and listen well!!! So....if you can use these traits, then take a chance and ask her out. But...make sure she sees the humor in you.

Answer 6

I've known plently of big guys who were extreamly popular with the ladies just because they could talk to them. Someone can tell you over and over again that confidence is key, but that's not really it. Just remember, what is the worst that happens? She says no? Big deal! Her loss anyways! Just find something that intrests her, and casually ask if she would want to go out together and do it. (not "do it"....yet) If she kindly declines, cool. There's hopefor the future, build on that. If she says no like a stuck-up little priss, than she's not worth it to begin with. And finally, if she says yes, well....then....your questions answered.

Answer 7

No matter what you look like, women/girls appreciate a direct approach and if you are respectful and kind, she might agree to go out with you.

That being said, why don't you do something about your size and that way you won't feel insecure about yourself in these situations?

Answer 8

i know ppl say this alot to ppl, but it's good advice, i think, just be yourself. not every girl goes for the most attractive guys. smile, and be polite and chivalrous (yes, some girls still like a gentleman). if ur just urself, she'll want to be with the person you are inside. that's the good kinda relationship, anyway. you don't want a superficial relationship where they just like the guy cuz of their looks. just remember to SMILE. : )

Answer 9

well if a not so fine guy walks up 2 me to talk i wouldnt jus look @ his looks -if he has a nice personality,funny,and very sweet,and not a jerk -so maybe jus try 2 not dwell on looks all the time because if ur happy with ur self it shows and people with attract 2 u -think about that -GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

I would suggest doing it in a very light-hearted manner. First get it in your head that she's probably going to say no, so prepare yourself. Then when you get a chance just throw it out to her, "Hey, you wanna go see a movie with me saturday?"....If she says "no", then you just come back with " well, that's okay, I wasn't really interested in going to the movies anyway, but I thought I would ask"...then go on about your way.