i didn't sleep with him (just had one dinner). i know he's attracted to me. but then i found out thru another person he had paid for gratification (prostitutes), it turns me off. should i overlook this?
2006-10-15 07:32:05 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't over look it! A man that does that, not only views sex as an selfish act, but also views women as objects! These type of men completely separate from the emotional aspect of sex. You want to date someone who is going to be satisfying to you, sexually, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Someone who is going to meet your needs, and love you for you. Someone who pays for sex, has no emotional attachment, and will use you for convience, and say whatever it is you want to hear, to get it...IF he really believes he can. Besides, you don't know who he's been with, or what he has. Bottom line, you deserve far better than that. Don't sell yourself so short. If you think all you're worth is the equivalent of paid sex....you need to work on your self esteem and self worth. I'm soooo with you on the fact of it being a turn-off! It most certainly is, and anyone worth a grain of salt would rightly agree.
Best of luck!
2006-10-15 07:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by safireblu64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's been estimated that at least ten percent of men pay for sex at least once a year including married men. It's also a fact that some of the most attractive highly paid successful men in society make up a proportion of these clients. He's probably very good in bed thanks to his experiences. Furthermore most prostitutes insist on condom use so the STD reputation is not justified.
From the comments women have posted here I'd say there are a lot of deluded women around if they think their men are not part of this story. The MAJORITY of prostitutes clients are men currently in committed relationships. I suppose we need hipocrisy and secrets sometimes.
2006-10-15 07:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Overlook" it only if you don't mind having a boyfriend or husband who also sleeps with prostitutes. The best indicator of future choices is past behavior. Be careful with *your* health. But also try to verify whether or not this "other person" has accurate information. (Asking the date might not be the best way, either. Many people have been known to lie.) My gut feeling is to move on and find someone more in line with your own personal values.
2006-10-15 07:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by writerchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is up to you , Put the shoes on the other feet, what if he found out something about you thru a second party . you are interested in him and he dumped you cause of it, how would you feel. This info is hearsay . This would be different if you have seeing him for a time and you found this out. We all have pasts but that is what they are past . Are you willing to look in the here and now set your eyes on the future. I say let it go if you really like the guy. See what the two of you put together.
2006-10-15 07:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by that guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether you were attracted to him. If you are, and he meets your other standards, you shouldn't let his past "gratification" bar him from your world. Would you dismiss him because in the past he had obtained self gratification (masturbation) ? If so, you are in for a lonely life. However copulation with prostitutes carries a strong health warning about sexually transmissible diseases - be careful.
2006-10-15 09:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Chief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If this man paid other women for sex, but gets it from you for free, you'll always feel like at least the prostitutes had standards... My meaning is, you will feel depreciated in value and already know that you are turned off by this, so you already know the right course of action...
2006-10-15 07:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by guardian707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get over this than leave him alone. To me a man who pays for prostitutes has many problems and not all men do that. I would not be able to date his nasty azz. It is a good sign you found out about this before the relationship began.
2006-10-15 07:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you absolutely should overlook this little thing. After all, think about all the gifts he could bring you.Aids,STD - all sorts of neat things. And everytime you don't satisfy him, then why worry about it because he will only get it elsewhere and take the pressure off of you. And then again,think about his morals and what a great lifestyle you could have by hooking up with him. Maybe he will even suggest that you could join them and aybe make a threesome. YUCK!! Dump the stupid moron.
2006-10-15 07:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not over look this! I don't mean from the stand point that is turns you off either.
If you can get past the fact that he has hired prostitutes; and you chose to continue the relationship,....ask him to get an AIDS test. Don't sleep with him until you know his is disease free.
2006-10-15 07:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prostitution is very dangerous for both the john and the hooker! You aren't for sure if he was protected, and what went on. Bow out gracefully now, since you've only had dinner. You can find another. Be safe....
2006-10-15 07:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by icu292876 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋