Christians, so you all believe homosexuality is a choice, right? And that it's a sin?

Question

Most of you believe that the devil himself deceives people into 'choosing' the gay lifestyle. If that is so, where was God when I was 6 years old to protect me from being deceived by the devil? I remember that age so well because that's when I first fell in lust with another boy, my friend's older brother. I first noticed him when he came to pick up my friend at the end of the first day of my first grade year of elementary Catholic school---he was the most beautiful creature I had ever laid my young eyes on at that time. That boy got me hot and bothered, though I did not know exactly what it meant at that moment. All I remember was this intense need to touch that boy in the oddest of places. I blush when I think about it now. I honestly believe, from that day on, I'd started my life of 'sin’ because boys became my sole interest. Girls became like furniture---they filled up a room and were always in the way. So, I suppose now you all good christians will tell me that children at that age can 'choose' to be gay, because God would allow them to be deceived? How do you rationalize this? And please don’t tell me that what I just related is an experience unique only to myself, because many homosexuals can relate a similar story.

I was not molested as a child. I have very wonderful parents. And I had prayed to God to rid me of this 'sin,' ever since I discovered its name. I'm 22 now. I stopped praying for a 'cure' two years ago after I had my very first sexual experience with another man. It was wonderful! I'd never felt so loved and liberated.

Answer 1

Welcome to Yahoo! Answers, Allan.

Religion seems to have tainted a nice coming-out story. Personally I have no dog in your fight with the Christians (because even though I'm gay, I'm no longer Christian), but if you didn't already know it, there are several Christian denominations that welcome gay people and do not consider it a sin. Among them are The Episcopal Church (they even have a gay bishop), The United Church of Christ, The Unitarian-Universalist Church, and The Metropolitan Community Church. In congregate, they offer a broad range of worship options and viewpoints on Christian theology.

You may also wish to take the opportunity of seeing the world through new eyes, recognizing that many times religion does not offer a positive message.

Best of luck. Don't let the negative answers coming your way get under your skin. Take lots of breaks from the fight so you don't lose your own sense of self-worth. And remember, you are human before you are gay, and if for no other reason, you deserve respect from everyone for your humanity.

And to the rest of you: Lust at that age is a perfectly normal event, but is often suppressed in memory because of shame. Lay off the guy.

Answer 2

No more a sin than working on Sunday or lying a li'l or premarital sex. We are not to judge, that's God's decision. I believe God created u this way, & something innate inside me told me when I read Leviticus 18:22 that that was a manmade addition, I cannot prove this. But I do know that God said to love everyone,families, neighbors friends enemies. SO to persecute you is to persecute God's will, as He says love those who hate you. I know what you are saying as I try to keep my mind open to all things as ALL IS POSSIBLE WITH GOD, but there r some people quite the opposite. Sin is God's judgement ~ not mere mortals. Besides maybe we're all a li'l gay, & only you guys "come out". But we are all homos~ SAPIENS!! "Judge not lest you be judged." I trust my gut the same way you do, it just led me to a different path. We all have our own. But I'm sure you'll get quite a few mean answers ~ make ready!:o]

Answer 3

No, not all Christians believe that homosexuality is a choice.

The Catholic church, for example, does not believe that homosexuality itself is a sin. What it believes is that homosexual intercouse is a sin. This teaching stems from the same basis for the teachings on birth control, extra-marital sex, etc - the RCC teaches that sexual intercourse is something reserved for a man and a woman within the bounds of marriage and under circumstances that are naturally open to procreation. Homosexual intercourse cannot produce a child, ergo, it is considered a sin.

This isn't to say I agree or disagree with this teaching. I am trying to point out that official Catholic teaching does not go along with your rant. The US Catholic Bishops have actually put out statements on homosexuality that stress loving the person.

(and dude, lust at 6 years old? That's uncommon, homo- hetero- or whatever)

Answer 4

I do not know whether homosexuality is a choice or not. What I do know is that it does not matter and is beside the point. What I mean is this: according to the Bible, we all are sinful - genetically so. This was passed down to us from Adam who did not have children until he himself was sinful. He could only pass down what he himself had.

Now . . .the Bible gives standards by which we must live. One of God's standards is that we enjoy the pleasures of sexual intimacy within the parameters he has set. Thus, adultery is wrong. Sexual intimacy without marriage is wrong. Sexual intimacy between humans and animals is wrong. Sexual intimacy between fathers and daughters or mothers and sons is wrong. And sexual intimacy between those of the same gender is wrong.

So the real question is, irrespective of genetics, is this conduct (whatever the conduct may be) acceptable to God? The short answer is: no.

Let me illustrate this point: suppose I fall madly in love with a Christian man who falls madly in love with me. Neither of us is married and so we are free for each other. That is, until we accidentally discover that we are actually brother and sister . . . separated in infancy and adopted by different couples. Do we still love each other? Absolutely. Can we marry? No. Should we become intimate? No. Why not? This is not acceptable in the eyes of God. But it's not our fault we were born brother and sister. And we fell in love and love is good, yes?

Sometimes it is painful to meet God's requirements. I do not deny that. But to be pleasing to God, it is necessary. That is undisputed.

Hannah

Answer 5

Have you ever wondered why you were even thinking about sex at 6 yrs old? Many homosexuals were victims of sexual abuse. Some were exposed to sexual ideas at a very young age. Either way, every time I hear someone make your argument it only confirms that something went wrong in your childhood. It in no way means that you were born homosexual. God loves you. Check out love won out if you ever decide to get help. they will not force anything on you, but for those who are looking to leave homosexuality behind, they can help. There are thousands of ex-gays who thought they were born gay.

Answer 6

We live in a fallen world, we all sin. Sin, is sin, is sin, no matter what it is- God doesn't distinguish. We pay the consequences for our sin and our only hope is in Jesus and His sacrifice. We can all choose not to sin. I think that some of our choices, even if they come when we are very young, are a result of something that has happened to us. You may not agree with me on this, but people who are attracted to the same sex have often been sexually abused. They often have a bad relationship with the same sex parent. They are searching for something thay hasn't been satisified in their lives. Homosexuality can be over come, it takes the involvement of God, I have seen it many times.

Answer 7

Well, you were sexually molested by this boy, even at the age of six. And you molested him. Taking religion out of the picture for a moment, I know several gays who share similar experiences. And I know several people who have been molested who did not become gay as adults.

Several studies show that molested females especially become lesbians or prostitutes. Men become gays and prostitutes. But who knows for sure?

Also, when we get older and are looking for mates in life, we tend to try and repeat good feelings we had of others in childhood, whether this comes from parents or someone else. We pick characteristics or personalities in these mates that remind us of the person or persons who made us happy as children.

I can't tell you that God isn't against homosexuality because He is. And if you choose not to be a Christian, that is your choice. I'm not going to be judgmental of you either way.

Answer 8

Bless your heart. I believe homosexuality is a spirit as well as all sexual perversion.People can let a spirit come into them through, sexual abuse, pictures and listening to people talk about experiences they can also have a homosexual spirit passed down through the blood line to them from a father, grandfather or uncle. I don't fault a 6 year old boy for his feelings, but it you were taught in a Christian setting that homosexuality is a sin and want to accept Jesus into your life, you can get deliverance from what God hates. Its a hard spirit to get rid of, but I have known someone who did and is happily married and has kids now. You would need to go to a church that has some experiences with deliverance and hopefully of homosexual spirits. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

i'm sorry, yet i'm looking it very perplexing to appreciate what you're saying because of misuse of phrases and unusual sentence shape. If I misread what you're saying, please superb your writing and then i could have the skill to respond greater properly. My awareness is that maximum Christians have self assurance that no person must be gay. As your citation shows, there's a thought that homosexuality is a 'perversion'. you commence via saying that the challenge of homosexuality is being reported at your college, and later say which you 'used to think of like that throughout severe college', suggesting you're no longer at school. it quite is it? i detect it perplexing to appreciate why every person regards love for yet another man or woman as incorrect. it quite is biologically organic to precise a definite style of love in sexual procedures. Many different animals, to boot as people, instruct sexual pastime in somebody/yet another animal of their species who's the comparable intercourse. there is very lots of discussion approximately why this must be, which strikes me as extraordinary - why no longer? Why ought to all sexual intercourse be approximately procreation? maximum heterosexuals take measures, in some unspecified time interior the destiny, to ward off thought, so if all intercourse is meant to be approximately procreation, any efforts to ward off that (alongside with via abstinence from intercourse) could logically be seen as incorrect. Why are some human beings heterosexual? as a remember of actuality that our sexuality is a advent of the blend between our innate nature and our journey - no-one is born heterosexual (have you ever met a splash individual who basically needs to narrate to the different intercourse?). Later: if liking "boobs" is what makes you (possibly as a male) heterosexual, i'm able to basically say that your objectification of girls would not bode properly for any style of actual relationship with any female. If it quite is a Christian awareness of relationship, thank goodness i'm no longer a Christian. i'm attracted to actual relationships, the place 2 human beings meet totally as persons - no remember what gender the two of them take place to be.

Answer 10

People get Messed Up when they Come into a Messed Up Earth to be Born.
Not their Fault.
GOD Loves you and wants Everybody in Heaven.
Only Jesus can Recreate your Spirit and SAVE you, and Only Jesus can help you Understand how People get Messed Up and HE is the Only One Who can Help Explain You to Yourself or Others.
Don't let Religion LIE to YOU all, GOD Loves ALL HUMAN BEINGS, no mattter how or how much they got Messed Up when they were Born.