Why did God not answer my me?

Question

My relationship broke down just last week. I went in to the open (walking my dog) and talked to god. I asked him, well begged not to break up my family and to give me strength to find a way to pull it back together. Needless to say I am now more alone than I have ever been. So I suppose my question is if there is a God why did he say no, when this relationship was the best thing to happen to me and my partner and our dependants

Thank you very much to the people who obviously realise that this has caused me pain but why do some of you have to be so damned arrogant? When did i actually offend any of you that have bothered to reply in a nasty way. My opinion on God may be on the fence at the moment but I sure believe in Kharma.

and incidently I thanked god everyday for what I was given.

Answer 1

You are going to get a boat load of answers here and they will most likely confuse you in a time when you are already confused.

Let me leave you, simply with the word of God, since He is really the one you are directing this plea to. And in the meantime know that I am praying for you right now, that God would give you grace and wisdom and a peace which surpasses all understanding over this season of your life, as God's ways are not always our ways, which means you must have faith in the one who knit you in your mother's womb to continue His good work in you, knowing that through trials you might better seek His face and remember that He is your God who will never leave you or forsake you. God bless you dear. I am going to go look up the Scriptures I am thinking of and I will be back.
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PS God has heard your plea and He is moving in your life, don't think that just beacause you prefaced your question with "If there is a God" that he did not hear your heart. Though your mind may wrestle, your heart has sought Him and He has heard you.

Philippians 4:6-9

6 In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.

7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus.

8 Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things.

9 The things which you learned, received, heard, and saw in me: do these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
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Philippians 1:6
being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

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Hebrews 13:5
"I will never leave you nor forsake you"
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Psalm 91:1-2 (God shelters those who trust Him)
"He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my GOd, in who I trust."
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2 Corinthians 1:3-4
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God."
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1 Peter 5:6-7
6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you IN DUE TIME; 7 casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you.
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1 Thessalonians 5:17-18
Pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances., for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
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Proverbs 3:5-6
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." [remember that His straight may not be your straight]
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Matthew 11:28-30
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
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Psalm 50:15
Call on me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me.
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John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
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Psalm 146:5-6
BLESSED IS HE whose help is in the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God, the Maker of heaven and earth, the sea and everything in them ---the Lord, who remains faithful forever.

I saved the above verse for last because it talks about HOPE and it explains that we are to put our hope in God [Not man or our desires or our ideals for our lives] but in GOD ALONE, because He is all knowing and sees from the beginning of the beginning and knows our future, therefore He knows what is best for us.

In closing: Do not be tossed to and fro like a lost ship at sea, lost in the confusion of all that lay before you, but instead... God says to us all, and He says to you today:

“Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10)

Answer 2

I don't know why your relationship is falling apart. I am sorry that you are in such pain. Anyone who responds unkindly to your question is being cruel and heartless. Most people have suffered through the pain of a breakup in their lives.

With so little to go on, it's hard to know why God may be saying no to your prayers. Or maybe he hasn't answered you yet. What I would say to you is to not give up. Keep praying. He's still listening. He knows you are hurting. And keep listening. Remember, as your heavenly Parent, He can see things about this relationship that you can't. I don't know if your partner will agree to counseling. I hope so. It would do you both good. If he won't go, you go on your own. It may help you to sort things out. May God bless you throughout this difficult time and may you come out the other side a stronger person.

Answer 3

I sympathise with you. No woman (or man, for that matter) should have to go through anything like this. But see, God cannot force your boyfriend to do something he is free not to. If this was "the best thing that happened" to you AND him, how come he is leaving you? It might be that you'll be better off without him. It happened to me, at various times, to go through things that seemed against my idea of what was good for me, but which eventually turned out for the better.
You could ask God to strengthen your faith, to help you take care of your family, to find friends that truly care for you (since you feel lonely -- a person with true friends is never lonely), and of course a good man that won't walk away. The last one is the most difficult, it might take many years...

Answer 4

It's hard isn't it, god allowed my husband to have an affair when I prayed that he wouldn't do it.....so what can we learn from this. I don't know. It's a mystery. I still believe in god and my faith is all i've got right now. I've found the church family I belong to have been a tower of strength through this. So far we haven't split up but it has been close. God can bring a positive out of a negative, lets hope he does for you.

Answer 5

Well is it really the best thing, or is that just how u feel???? What we may think is best for us may not always be. So don't be hard on yourself. Plus God does not answer everyone's questions or create miracles upon request. There are plenty of people that believe in God who have been raped, molested, almost killed, seen their loved ones killed, etc. As a non-believer of these religions (but I believe in a higher power-GOD) I say, don't doubt your faith just because he didn't give u the answer you hoped to hear. And if it was the absolute best thing for u and your partner then why are u breaking up???

Answer 6

Since God knows better what is best for you, He is answering your prayer, but not in the way you may think is best for you.
You just have to have faith. There is a reason your relationship may be breaking up, that perhaps you may not know about until several years from now. Then it will become clear to you. Then you will thank God for His blessing of whatever He brings into your life at the time.

Answer 7

Sometimes He knows things that we do not--everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure you will find that out once you have stopped hurting--two country songs that might help are "Unanswered prayers" by Garth brooks and "God bless the broken road that led me straight to you"

Maybe this relationship was the best thing that could have happened--but a better one could still happen yet--and this relationship ended for a reason, that reason might just be that it wasn't as good as you thought--be strong

Answer 8

You didn't say why the relationship ended. Any relevant answer I can give entirely depends on whether or not there was a justifiable reason for the relationship to break up--like adultery.

Also, if you are saying something like "if there is a God," you appear to be not very deep into your walk with God. It is possible that God did not hear your prayer because you have not yet approached him to accept his gift of salvation and repent your sins.

I would hope you'd provide more info to this question so as to receive a relevant answer from answerers here.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You ask of god but you should ask yourself what have you done for god lately? Have you prayed to him without asking for something and just thanking him for what you have right now? Did you thank him for the air in your lungs or the food you eat or the fact that your relationship was once so strong? Everything happens for a reason and maybe this will make your relationship stronger you never know, only time can tell what is going to happen. But dont blame god for not answering your prayers maybe you just don't talk to him enough for him to consider giving you something you never give him, which is happiness.

Answer 11

God knows better then our short term minds what is best for us . You will find the answer down the line , I've had this happen in life many times . Have faith , and hang in there !