My boyfriend is required to keep a journal for school. He always has written entries that are not true, he writes about how great he is doing in sports when he's not. He just likes to be over-dramatic. However, today I looked in it and found an entry about a girlfriend (who's not me by the way) and it's a couple entries long. Is this also just made up? I just called him and asked about it and he said if I trusted him I would know he's not like that. I told him it's fine, but I'm still a little worried.
2006-10-15 07:13:16 · 29 answers · asked by Ally S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Isn't it amazing how we hurt ourselves when we snoop where we shouldn't be looking?
Maybe it is made up, maybe it isn't.
Here's a quote: It takes years to earn trust and just one moment to destroy it.
You are the only one who can decide if you trust him.
Good luck!
2006-10-15 07:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second answer is close enough to what you should do, girl. You shouldn't worry about that entry in his "Fib Factory". Find out what makes him fabricate stories, but never ask him directly about it. What I mean is that you must find it out from someone who, aside from your boo himself, knows quite much about that journal. And when you have gathered enough information, put up a plan which will make him stop doing so. Never try to embarass him either publicly or privately. Just be logical on plots, girl.
I also kept a journal back in high school, but eventhough it's also a melodramatic one, I insisted on pulling myself down through my way of writing. Over-inferiority, that is. My entries were so filled with self-pity that my professor didn't want to believe in what I was feeling then, but it didn't make him humiliate me. Instead he put me under a counselling session of his, and tried to lift up my dwindling spirit.
2006-10-15 07:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Grifter Heavenspike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned about why he's lying in his Journal... sounds like he has some issues with reality. That would make me more scared than reading a long entry about another girlfriend that is probably as fake as the rest of his "life" is.
2006-10-15 07:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he mention a name of this chic??? and did you sneak behind his back to read the journal??? if you did... that's not good... you would think a journal is suppose to be private... him being a little dramanic in the journal doesn't hurt anything unless he trashes someone in it... something that's not true... I would just keep a close eye out and if he has another chic on the side... he can't hide it for long... someone will see him out with her or whatever... it will get out if he is... don't worry... hope this helps
2006-10-15 07:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try not to be over-suspicious. If you find some other evidence, then you might need to work on that. But for now, just know that is an exaggerater, (and why were you reading the journal anyway........?) also, most people who come up with stories like that usually do so for one of 2 reasons. 1: they arent comfortable with who they are (help him be more confident!) or 2: they like to make up stuff to make life better than it really is, and i know a couple ppl like that (I am one of them) and we all love to write stories and stuff, who knows, maybe he's gonna be a great author!!
2006-10-15 07:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anna Banana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 1, you should have not looked in his journal w/o his permission so if u saw something u didn't like u got what u deserved. No 2, once a drama queen, always a drama queen so be happy u found out when u did. Run, don't walk, there is more to life than him.
2006-10-15 07:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to stop reading his journal, it's his. I can't say if his entry about a girlfriend is true or not. If you snoop around your bound to find out some truths and lies.
2006-10-15 07:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still worried it means that you are not okay with the whole issue.all the other entries could be lies but the one about the galfriend could be true, talk to him and dont brush it off that quickly something could be going on.
2006-10-15 07:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He exaggerates. That much we know for sure. But another girl? I don't know about that. I wouldn't trust him at all. And how can he even ask you to trust him if he's writing about another girl! Hey, if you do trust him, more power to you. I wouldn't be able to just because I've been lied to before. And guys don't usually write about stuff that doesn't matter to them. Writing takes effort. Boys and effort in the same sentence are weird. Boys taking effort to write about something that "doesn't matter to them," well, that's bologna! Good luck, girl!
2006-10-15 07:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got self esteem issues, and apparently honesty ones too...if he's lying in his journal to whomelse and about what else is he lying? Is this the kind of person you want to be with? How often are you going to find yourself questioning him about things you hear or read?
He needs to stop writing fantasy, and write truth...if he doesn't like the truth he needs to change his life into something he likes, not write how he wishes it were...
2006-10-15 07:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋