order of protection. He claims an protection order can be modified to allow the "victimizer" to be with the "victim". Is this true? Don't you have to have the order rescinded first? She allowed him in her house repeatedly knowing she was not supposed to. Long crazy story short they obviously got into another argument and she used her status as a "victim" to get him arrested. Should she not have consequences for her part in breaking the order or were his actions (according to her) enough to override her "crime"? Is it worth it for him to even bring this up or is it to petty to mention?
2006-10-15 06:55:29 · 10 answers · asked by Spay-n-Neuter-Your-Pets 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I agree with everyone so far. It is what you all say it is. She is sick physically and mentally. This is a long term "relationship" atleast 15 years+. As for it being none of my business, well, it was made my business when for 2 days straight I had my doors kicked in by ATF looking for said "victimizer". I want to strangle them both for wasting everyones time and efforts. For lieing to me and for bringing this drama into my home and life. AFTER reading everyones answers I will now step back and let the drama play itself out. They are no longer my "friends". Thank You everyone.
2006-10-15 07:33:48 · update #1
while they are both in violation of the restraining order, the person who has the order against should not be going over to her house no matter what she says or how good the sex is,
as demonstrated all she has to do is get mad at him and call the cops his presence alone is enough for arrest
2006-10-15 07:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by goz1111 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very unfortunate that you had to be brought into their situation. It is truly not your problem.
Every since the Okay Simpson/Nicole trial law enforcement agencies throughout America automatically issues a restraining order on the involved parties when called out for a domestic dispute. Sometimes this is warranted and sometimes it is not. Allot of times the female would just like for the other person to leave and is unable to physically do so. Unfortunately (or fortunately which ever way you look at it) it has become the law and arrest must be made and restraining orders placed.
If the couple just had a dispute it could be a very costly mistake to call for back up. Expensive court fee's, incarceration, restitution, etc. and the victim does not see any of this money just the court.
Because it is the law...they are both breaking it but she has a little more of an advantage because she was not the aggressor.
Anyway, I feel for you...no one deserves to go through that kind of a relationship especially if it is not there own! Good luck!
2006-10-15 16:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by californian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another bogus "Order of Protection".!
Either this guy is dangerous and should be kept away from her, or he is not.
She is playing a game, and he should stay away from her, because that OP is enough to get him put in jail.
Domestic Violence courtrooms thoughout the country are full of these bogus "cases" that reflect only the inner emotional conflicts of the participants.
Without witnesses, which there usually are not, due to the intimate nature of male--female relationships, this is a sick, neurotic relationship
and the cops are only bound to enforce the Court Order of Protection.
And unfortunately, it is beyond your control and none of your business.
2006-10-15 14:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good heavens, sounds like the soap opera of an ex female friend of mine. She just couldn't keep away from a loser no matter how much she whined and complained about him, she kept going back.
People like her are wasting valuable time of police officers, courts, etc.
2006-10-15 14:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i remember once she allows him to venture 100 feet into her order of protection she violates the order and it becomes null and void....see it done and had the police tell them basically tough cookies...then she has to file all over again and the judge will ask her why she violated the order in the first place
2006-10-15 16:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by russ_vl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend that by letting him stay over night has made the protection null and void..she is no longer under the protection of the courts if he was to assaults her.
2006-10-15 14:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by blkbelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both subject to jail time. And quite frankly I hope they get it. It is ridiculous for stupid people to waste tax dollars playing games.
2006-10-15 14:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stay away till she drops the order.
2006-10-15 18:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not petty at all,if she gets mad,he goes straight to jail!
2006-10-15 13:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This order is null and void if something happens to her, since she willingly let him break it.
2006-10-15 15:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋