2006-10-15 06:54:40 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOOO!!! Can u say JAIL?
2006-10-15 06:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mona lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is is legal? Sometimes. It depends on the State and the circumstances. I suggest you contact your local prosecutor's office, for information about that.
Aside from that, I won't say it can't work. A relationship between a 29 year old and a 17 year old might lead to a happy marriage, but there are hazards you should be aware of.
There are many predators out there, some of whom prefer younger women. At 17, you aren't likely to be very skillful at spotting them, but I will try to give you a few tips.
If you are very unhappy with your life, for instance, if you're having problems with your family, or if you, or anyone close to you has a substance abuse problem, marrying anyone at the age of 17 would probably be a mistake. Get your own life in order first. Then find someone to share it with.
If a man is rescuing you, you ought to be asking why. You might be dealing with a control freak, who figures a 17 year old would be easier to control, or possibly the kind of man who will ditch you, as soon as you get pregnant, or get too old for him.
One more thing. Most people see a marriage counselor when their marriages are falling apart. I think the best time to see a marriage counselor is when you're thinking about getting married.
2006-10-15 07:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age really shouldn't be a factor in a relationship. Just be aware that being only 17 and he is 29 that there is a legal issue there. If you want to be serious with this guy, wait till you are 18 so nothing like him going to jail will happen.
2006-10-15 07:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's creepy. You may be the most articulate, intelligent 17 year old on the planet, BUT a mature, reasonable 29 year old man should still have more in common with women his own age!!!! With the age difference, there is a real concern that he chose you because being younger you are easier to dominate and control, or lie to. Be careful!!
2006-10-15 07:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you read, then read it in its intirety
Mind you i am not condoning this behaviore. nor am i supporting it. but warning is stated
its, ok, however the only thing i suggest is this you let your parents know and that they meet the person at the house and for dinner.
know that there might be some legal issues, if the wrong person has knowledge of this.
remember people do some stupid things when you piss them off or make them jealous.
so no matter what do not play games and when you make a decision be steadfast in it.
even if it means not going with him or breakin up with him. be unwavering in you decisions. if you want to be with an adult, my best advice is you better be ready to act like one.
additionally, you are young, that is not saying you are not mature, but that is saying he has a lot of expernice " in life".
where you do not as far as relationships are concerned and responsiblities.
your expectations may not be what his are by any comparison.
remember it is wise that you have your own identity, and not his.
Learn to be your own person and to speak for yourself and do not let him speak for you. nor should you try speaking for him.
personnaly if i were you i would not do it.
but then again i know women and they will always do what they want to and they always know what their going to do, way before they even start asking, at least most of them.
most importantly believe in your self whether you make mistakes or bad decisions.
and if situation gets bad leave it and drop, remember you can not change anyone.
trust me i know
dont wast you life trying to fix something that is not your responsibility we are only responsible for ourselves, we should not try answering for other actions nor should we even make an attempt at it.
in the end my advice to you, finish school and go to college
thats all i have
stay strong
"wild man" also has good points."
ya watch out for those predators and those control freaks
remember you control yourself not anyone else not matter how they feel for you and no matter what place they hold in life be it family, friends or significant other of any sort.
2006-10-15 07:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She's underage, and he's approaching middle age. What in common could those two people have? She's in high school or just graduated, and he's likely well into his career (and through college probably, if he went)...their life experiences are different, their goals are likely different, and the things they have in common are probably going to be different...
She's a child...he's a grown man (12 yrs older)...if she was mid-20's and he was late 30's that would be a bit different...at her age, the gap is too great...and I'd seriously question the basis of his interest in her...
2006-10-15 06:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I understand the formula for being the 2nd wife is 1/2 the man's age plus 7 years. But that would be the b/f would need to be married and divorced and you'd need to be about 22.
2006-10-15 06:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Roadkill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy-can you wait until your 18???i dont think age is important but you should wait until your 18 at least ...before getting intimate!!i myself like older guys and when i was 18 i dated a 38 year old,and when i was 19 i dated a 29 year old but you have to make sure his motives for dating you are good- the 38 year old just wanted to tell his buddys that he was banging a hot 18 year old,and when i found out i was really upset because i thought he cared for me!!so just be careful!!
2006-10-15 06:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by callalily07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just turned 17 no i really don't think its a good idea because you would still be counted as 'jail bait' for him the closer you are to 18 the less chance of either one of you getting into any kind of trouble so just watch yourself, you could get him lock up if the wrong people find out, because rumors can spread like wild fire. if he loves you enough he'll wait for you but if not, i don't know what to tell you.
2006-10-15 07:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin married a 30 year old guy when she was only 18, and she had her baby at 19
2006-10-15 06:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE AGE OF CONSENT IN THE STATE OF NEW YORK IS 17,
BUT I WOULD'NT RECOMMEND A GIRL OF THAT AGE TO
DATE A MAN OF 29 YEARS!!! MUCH IS AT STAKE!!!
FOR ALL YOU YOUNG TEENS OUT THERE, BE WISE!!!
2006-10-15 07:05:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋