My daughter has always been the sweetest little girl. Here lately whenever she's mad at me she hits and kicks me I just don't know how to handle this. I give time outs for punishment the whole time she sits there she's crying and getting up. Any ideas?
2006-10-15 06:53:58 · 10 answers · asked by steffi 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, you have certainly got yourself a complicated situation here and I am sure this seems very worrysome for you, I hold my heart out to you and I hope that maybe I can shed some light onto your situation. The truth is it could be more then a million different things that could cause even the most wonderful person to act out. Even something as small as the TV programs she watches to a situation she has seen in real life. The real important thing to keep in mind (in this stage of her development) is to never give in to her demands when she uses abuse or tantrums as a means to reaching her goals. (no matter how heartbreaking it seems) also remember that as young as she may be they can really understand what you are saying (and sometimes not saying) more then you think, maybe just a simple "Why?" question [to her] on your behalf may answer more questions then you think. also when all else seems to have failed the greatest thing I learned in child psychology is this: bring it to her as a problem [i.e "mommy has a problem with hitting and mommy was wondering how we could help that not to happen anymore] kids love to solve problems and it will make her seem like it was her idea in the first place. just remember a little love and patience goes along way and it will show in the years to come
2006-10-15 07:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by kArMaRiFiC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay consistent with the time outs. Make sure she knows that when she does something bad there will be a punishment. You also may want to look into her diet or figure out if there has been a change in her environment. Either of these things could turn her world upside down and it could be affecting her behavior.
2006-10-16 11:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two issues to deal with. First, you want to let her know that hitting and kicking is not allowed and that you will not stand for it, no exceptions. Whenever she hits or kicks at you, continue with time-outs. However, if her behaviour is out of character for her, you might want to try and figure out what's happening. You could consider consulting with a psychologist or social worker who can assess her behaviour against her developmental milestones and developmental needs. Good luck.
2006-10-15 15:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pin point when this started. Was she being looked after by someone else just prior to these episodes? That day or day before? Something happened to traumatize this child. Did you have company that might have been alone with her? Are there older kids around her that might have been alone with her?
You can fill in the blanks. But something has happened to her. Kids do not undergo a complete personality change overnight unless something has happened. Have her looked at by a doctor. Have checked for some kind of molestation. I know it hurts you, but do it. Now!
2006-10-15 14:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You punish her.Punishing somebody is disrespectful.How do you expect your daughter to respect you if you treat her with disrespect?!You better consider buying the book 'Positive Discipline for preschoolers" by Jane Nelson.That's the answer to your problem with disciplining your daughter.
2006-10-15 14:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn that this is not approperate behavior. When you put her in time out do not let her get up. She needs to sit for 4 minutes no matter what. Then tell her that she is hurting you and you don't like it one bit. Tell her she needs to stop. Then when she does it again start all over. It may take all day long, but stick to it.
2006-10-15 14:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by angelica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is some thing they all do. I have 4 kids. I will spank mine if it calles for it or make them stand in the conner there is even sending them to there room. Or I have found to tell them that they are hurting your fellings when they do that. It my make them feel bad for a min but then they will know how you feel. And you never know that may just do it.
2006-10-15 14:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Amy M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be more going on in her life that may have caused these changes. Try to pinpoint what changes have occurred and talk to her. She seems to need your love right now.
2006-10-15 17:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no parent, but i've done a lot of research in nutrition...could it be something in her diet? do you feed her lots of sugar? try more proteins and veggies. You'd be surprised at how diet affects our behavior sometimes...good luck.
2006-10-15 13:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stick to your guns. you're doing right. this is just the terrible 4s. (wait untill the 6s, 8s,.......)
2006-10-15 14:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Out on a limb returns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋