this guy tha i am in a band with grandfather passed away. i want to call him and say something but i don't know what to say.
2006-10-15 06:47:36 · 13 answers · asked by babythugga281 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whatever you do don't say "if you need anything don't hesitate to call me". when people are grieving you just don't realize how many people say that. your best bet is to be there for him. just call him and offer condolences then move on to conversation letting him lead. a lot of times just conversation is comforting. then a few days later after everybody else has moved on with their lives call him again and invite him out to lunch or take dinner to his place. he will appreciate it.
2006-10-15 07:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you also have had a grandfather pass away, DO NOT SAY that you understand what he is going through... because you don't! Just tell him that you are keeping his family in your thoughts and prayers (unless you don't pray, then leave that part out) while they go through this difficult time, and let him know that you're here for him, and that if he needs anything at all - even if it's just to talk to someone - you're here for him.
2006-10-15 07:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always would ask if there was anything I could do for you and I'm so sorry for your loss, and if the person who died suffered in any way I would always add "they are at peace and in a better place now" but most of all just be there for them if they want to talk about it. I think in some cases a face to face meeting is better. Just a hug or hand squeeze can say so much to someone who is hurting.
2006-10-15 07:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by talk4now2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on the other side of it. My baby passed away and what I needed was just someone to talk to. Tell him that if he ever needs someone to talk to, you're only a phone call away. Spend time with him, go to the movies or just hang out. Don't force him to talk about it, and when he does talk about it, just listen. If he wants to cry, lend him a shoulder to cry on. Just be there for him, that's the best thing that helped me.
2006-10-15 06:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever really knows what to say. Just call to say hey & let your friend know that you are sorry for their lose & if there is anything that the family needs, you are there for them. Moral support is the biggest thing you can offer during this type of experience.
2006-10-15 06:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to talk about it. Often when people are bereaved the one thing they do is want to talk about it, and the one thing the people who console them don't want to do is talk about it.
Just be yourself, and say what comes naturally, even if it sounds awkward.
2006-10-15 06:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my grandmother just passed so i have experinced! ok if u r going 2 call him talk quietly and slowly! he might answer slowly. so be patient. tell him that everything happens for reason.also tell him if he wants 2 talk about it your just a phone call away!
2006-10-15 06:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sonia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act normal, see how he is doing and let him know if he wants to talk that you will be there.
2006-10-15 06:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people find comfort in knowing that the people that care about them are accesable and open to hearing what they have to say...you dont have to say anything-just let him know your there to talk to
2006-10-15 06:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by ellie_2121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him ask him how he is doing just be kind and talk with him.
2006-10-15 06:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋