4 weeks ago this guys sister asked me if I wanted to go out with her brother. I said that I would think about it and answer her the next week. She missed 3 weeks of school because she was hung over and didn't want to come to school. When she finally come I told her yes, I did wanna go out with her brother. Then she showed me him and he seemed to like me, but I didn't like him. He kissed me the same 10 mins I met him. Yeah I know he's fast. Then I left him and went to lunch. I talked to him in the halls and stuff. We've only been going out for 6 days now and I don't wanna go out with him anymore becuz I only see him in the halls and yea. I think he's just with me to grab my *** and thats the big reason why I don't wanna be with him. I don't wanna tell him I don't wanna be with him becuz I am friends with his sister and I don't wanna ruin our friendship, but I know she will take her brothers side on this. I need something to say that will have us split up without any DRAMA?
2006-10-15 06:38:28 · 8 answers · asked by Dr.DRE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this helps he is a Jounior and his sister and I are freshmen.
2006-10-15 06:40:38 · update #1
Well, doc, sounds like you're on point. Very good. He's just out for one thing and he's rude in his manner of going about it to boot.
Have conversation with him. Tell him this just isn't working out as a romantic relationship and that you think you both would be happier as friends. Listen to what he has to say. Then tell him you do understand his point. Then leave. You understand what he said, he understood what you had to say and the conversation is over. Stick to your guns.
Then go to your friend and let her know that you had conversation with her brother and that you have decided not to have a romantic relationship.
Don't dis him to her, just let her know its over.
Hang in there, hon. There will be a right man. He will at first seem to be your best friend. Then one day you will see him through the eyes of Love. He will treat you respectfully and make right decisons. Stick with your standards, you are worth it.
2006-10-15 06:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't wrong for feeling the way you do. First of all, the brother sounds like he is a jerk and a pervert. He isn't a good choice regardless if he is your friend's brother. Your friend shouldn't have hooked you up with her brother, that was really bad. There usually is always problems when you date friends' ex's or their brothers. It's just not a good thing to do, something could go wrong and end what is a good friendship. Like you said, you already know how it is going to go down, she is going to side with him. But if you aren't comfortable with him, then you need to be honest with her as well as yourself. Don't be afraid, if she is really a true friend, then she will understand that you don't like being in the type of position you are in. Ask her to put herself in your shoes, would she like it? Probably not, so be true to you. If she doesn't understand, then she is not worth being a friend to you.
2006-10-15 13:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you don't think it's a good idea to date her brother. You could say, there is a conflict of interests. This might jeopardize your relationship with her and you would never want this. Surely she should understand. It's always such a touchy situation and not always a good idea. I hope whatever you decide, it works for you. I feel you should keep friendship and dating separate.
2006-10-15 13:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sucks. My advice is to talk to your friend first and tell her your side and why you dont want to be with him anymore. If shes a good friend she'll understand and if not than shes as a big of a sleazeball as her brother if she sides with him.
2006-10-15 13:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's high school. there is always drama. if the friendship gets ruined just because you don't like being grabbed then it's not worth keeping and will eventually fall apart anyway. you just cut your losses and lose both of them.
2006-10-15 13:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go out with someone that you've never met??? No wonder you don't like him...you should only go out with people who you know and like...it's just a title otherwise, not a relationship!
2006-10-15 13:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be incharge then and tell him to stop acting like that.
2006-10-15 13:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kool
2006-10-15 13:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋