do you care about etiquette/politeness??

Question

i personally think it's annoying if people are "too polite"...i mean i am gregerious and friendly..don't get me wrong but is it so hurrible to tell my friend the truth in the fitting room? is it sinful to not say "thank you" or "i love your dress"? WHAT IF THAT DRESS IS HIDIOUS?? wrrr it pisses me so much!! sometimes people care so much (like my aunt) that god forbid i forgot to say summin...they'll go "say please"...or if i do say summin..they'll go "that's not nice".. ya you should be polite and stuff but what should i just say "oh this outfit is awsome" and let my friend waste her cash on junk?? you know?? what do you think??

Answer 1

Etiquette is a class thing. The lower the class the less etiquette.
Politeness is a respect thing. The more polite, the more respect you get.

Yes I care about it. I think any self respecting person would.

Answer 2

I think you're totally right, 'coz that's how I see it too: people would be better off if we could speak the truth (more, if not always, which doesn't seem completely practical @ this time in history). The thing is, often folks don't want the truth (even if it's delivered with tact, jeez).

In addition to supporting your experience ("...people are 2 polite"), I realize and accept (ah, the hard part) that this is reality, and we'll always encounter some who are too nice (including evasive, unassertive, chicken, etc.). Since some of these Evernicers are my relatives, as a Gift of Love to them, I indulge their ways and give 'em what they want, being 'better mannered' than ususal. I'm not losing anything, as they know how I think; they've heard my wit and perspective, and even agree (but not to loudly, eh!).
I think this is an asset to my personality, as it increases my capacity to do well in Customer Service, you know, that place where you acknowledge/validate a person's issues/concerns and leave them thinking they are right. Letting someone feel they're right facilitates good relations and allows the person save face, a valuable tool in relationships (if you care to nurture them).

In the long run, while it takes it's toll on my patience and NERVES, I feel it's in the direction of character development for me, an investment in myself. I try to keep perspective, remember how good it is for me, to not insist on my method of relating (with candid truth), and interacting with Evernicers on their own turf.

Wishing you endurance (!) and good luck.

Answer 3

of course politness is really important. I don't know where you grew up or how you grew up, but where I grew up it is, even with those of your age or younger. saying please won't kill you! saying somethin nice won't either! it doesn't cost you anything...
about the dress, you can be honest but polite too... if it's hidious, (remember that it's your taste maybe she finds it awesome), you'll just have to say what you think of the dress like "before making up your mind and buying that dress, you should look around in other places too..."
it's nice, you avoid hurting someone's feeling and you're being honest!

Answer 4

It is very important to be polite. You are trying to find an excuse to be rude and hurt people's feelings. If you don't like someone's dress, just say, "I'm glad you like it." There's no reason to rave about how gorgeous it is, but why say something nasty? Someday someone will be rude to your, and you'll get the point -- unless you have the hide of an elephant.

Answer 5

I think the older generations take it too far and some in this generation don't try hard enough to be civil. No reason to feel obligated to lie about your opinion of someone's dress, if they ask. Just say you don't care for it.

Answer 6

once you're head to head with someone maximum folk opt to positioned their perfect self ahead. using the l. a. parkway gadget isn't a personable position. we try to get someplace we probable do not opt to be and we are operating previous due, it is gonna get us in warm water. So we pressure and get agitated and take it out on human beings we received't see back if we even appeared at them in the first position before we decrease them off and gave them the finger.

Answer 7

etiquette/politeness are both very important to our society, and shows we respect people. Maybe we should just try to balance it out with what you feel or the truth.

Answer 8

Well, basic politeness and etiquette have totally gone by the wayside in this generation and for most people in general. I guess they don't find it necessary anymore.

Answer 9

it depends who you are around, if it is someone you have a lot of respect for eg. parent, gardian, some one in aurthoirty, then yes attention to etiquette is very important. if you are around friends then show politness but it is not as important

Answer 10

One should not live life wasting away time just making others happy by speaking too politely