Okay so I have just realized I have been mean all my life basicly. I wanted to change because I am afraid God will not forgive me and he will make me go to hell.I feel bad for all the people I have hurt and made fun of and taunt through middle school. But all my friends just say being nice doesn't suit me. They think I am creepy when I am "nice". So does anybody think I should try and continue being nice or just drop it? Thank You.
2006-10-15 06:35:53 · 25 answers · asked by SunniGirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
lot of people love my mean nature.
God doesn't expect you to be nice, just honest.
2006-10-15 06:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, from a Christian point of view, assuming you've asked for forgiveness, you'll already save. The fact that you feel bad about it and are taking steps to improve yourself is very important in God's eyes.
As for your friends, consider this.... They're your friends when you are a mean spirited person. They are calling you ' creepy ' when you are being nice. So what does that make them?
Lost cause? Never. You have the power to invoke change in you life. Some change will take more effort than others, true. But trust me. People don't like being around mean people when you're older. Especially those that are handing you a paycheck. Best wishes
2006-10-15 13:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should not do it for the sake of people but for the sake of God alone. Because if you do it for the sake of people you will get discouraged when they are not nice to you. Just like at the moment you are taken a back because of your friends comments about you.
Secondly, Allah is Most Merciful. And He forgives anything, only thing you need to ask and repent sincerely. InshAllah you will be forgiven.
Finally, just keep doing good and being good. And let them realize that you have changed and that you are no longer the same mean girl that you used to be. It may take time, but if you are consistent in being good then people will realize it as well.
May Allah help you and support you in your efforts!
2006-10-15 14:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by ATK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's not what is in your heart, then forget it. Being nice comes natural. If you have to force yourself then you are not being real with yourself and/or others. And just because u are afraid of the so-called wrath of God when u die, if that is not what's truly in your heart, he will know it anyway, regardless to how much u put on a front. Plus being mean and being an a** is two totally different things. I use to be mean as hell to people because the hardships I had to endure in my life, I made that choice. BUT I did not go around teasing and taunting people. You're just being an a**. Remember what comes around goes around.
2006-10-15 13:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectations and Conditions = Hurt
There is only 2 ways of problem solving
1> Doing anything to change it
2> Accepting the fact / adaptability
If you find yourself being Mean, ask yourself this questions "Am I This Person" , "Is This What I Am", "Is this my Highest Being". If your answer is Yes, accept and love yourself for who you are. If your answer is No, do everything it requires to change to a higher self being you desire.
Remember there is No Right and Wrong in self realization, only Experience of your life's journey. Don;t take my word for it. Challenge me and seek your true indentity by realization cause If not for you, who else is going to love you First. Have a Nice Day
2006-10-15 15:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Evan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your own self-realization is the key to heaven my darling. Some people grow into old age with that "mean trait", you have realized it! This is God giving you the hint to change. The power is within you if you choose good. Don't drop it, goodness and love (& faith of course) are THE ONLY ways to heaven. You cannot be evil to people & expect to go to a place that is the symbol of love and peace, but you are on the right track, your path is before you now... you just have to walk it.... You'll change for the better before you even know it, esp w/God on your side ~God bless:o]
2006-10-15 13:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're being "fake nice" and that is creepy and won't score you any points with god--try easing into it a little at a time--it'll make it a more natural transition, easier to accept for your friends. Rome wasn't built in a day,and if it had been it would be just a facade.
2006-10-15 13:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is to your benefit to be as nice a person as you can without allowing others to walk on you.
As far as your concern about GOD forgiving you I assure you if you ask for forgiveness and repent you are forgiven.
However, repent means to turn away from that activity.
If your friends think you are creepy when your nice perhaps you should consider some new friends.
2006-10-15 13:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by drg5609 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a good question. There is something you must understand. God will punish all sin, if he didn't punish me and he punished you he would not be right, or merciful. Ok, so far? Ok, therefore none of us are righteous, we are all sinners. You say you are mean, well we could each claim to be something undesirable. None of us are perfect. Trying to be good is ok but just being good will never be enough to keep you from hell. God must punish sin. So in order for your sins to be covered and keep you from hell, you need your sins to be not only forgived but washed away and that is done by blood. Then when you are baptized in the name of Jesus Christ it also washes away all your sin and you start again as being born new but you are clean inside your spirit. Just trying to be good, is ok but it will not keep you from hell. Only Jesus can do that for your life. Should you go on being mean, of course not, but you need a Savior that will wash away your sin and put His Spirit in you so you will no longer want or desire to be mean. Jesus wil free you from the curse of sin, it will no longer have a hold on you as it does now.
2006-10-15 13:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter how nice you are, if you don't have Christ in your heart, you won't be in heven in the end. If you are a true believer, then we are supposed to do what is right no matter what others say or think about us. People fear grace and mercy and truth, it makes them uncomfortable, just let them know that you are still you, but you don't see any good out of being mean to people.
2006-10-15 13:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The confusion you are having right now is your punishment for being mean. It sounds like you are on your way to changing for the better, and that is great! Yes, keep being nice. That is the way to gain friends.
2006-10-15 13:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by Nels 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋