Okay so I have just realized I have been mean all ym life basicly. I wanted to change because I am afraid God will not forgive me and he will make me go to hell.I feel bad for all the people I have hurt and made fun of and taunt through middle school. But all my friends just say being nice doesn't suit me. They think I am creepy when I am "nice". So does anybody think I should try and continue being nice or just drop it? Thank You.
2006-10-15 06:34:37 · 11 answers · asked by SunniGirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
God will forgive you for any sin. Just ask him in Jesus name.
2006-10-15 06:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your old friends are not going to accept the new you. More than likely, your old friends are not all that nice, either, or they wouldn't hand with a mean person.
Get a new set of friends; go places and join clubs where you will meet a better class of person. Your old friends will try to make you miserable for a while, then give up.
Never ever drop a good quality trait like being a decent and kind person. It never hurts to ask forgiveness of the ones you truly taunted. let them know that you have grown up since then and that if you had it to do all over again, you would behave differently. you may find some of your new friends in those who are kind enough to forgive. Those are the people who will be good in your life. If they don't forgive you, pay it forward; you can't change the past, but you can change the present and the future. Pay if forward until you feel better and better. It won't take long. The old friends are going to get very jealous when the opposite sex starts looking at you in a different way, and they will.
2006-10-15 13:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by Realty Shark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people aren't very nice when they're growing up. I was made fun of a lot and should have known better, but i didn't. I was mean, too. It sounds like you've done a lot of growing.
My advce is to try to do what you think is best in each situation. Don't use "god will punish me" as a reason not to be a bully, use "this is the right thing" or "this will please god" as the reason to be kind. You may find that not everyone deserves kindness- you'll have to do as you see fit, then.
Your friends are probably just not used to seeing you in this light. They'll probably get used to it. You'll probably also make more friends having made this change in yourself. Be ready for people not to believe right away that you're sincere, though. You may have to prove yourself, but it'll be worth it in the long run.
2006-10-15 13:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by kivrin9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late in life to make a wonderful good change. Realizing that you have been mean is a wonderful first step.
Now that you realize it, do something about becoming the special person that you know that you can be. Change is good.
Your friends have seen you the way your were for so many years that they can't see you any other way and may not even want to.
However, it is your life and you should live it in as good a way as possible. Honey will get a person much more in life than vinegar.
If you feel a real need to apologize to someone for hurting them, it will not only make them feel better but it will do wonders for the way it will make you feel good about yourself.
Good luck on becoming the new you. I comment you for wanting to change.
2006-10-15 13:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by callylily55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please forgive for not quoting the Qur'an directly on this subject, but as a Muslim you should know what the prophet (saas) has written about human behavior:
"And whatever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatever he forbids you, leave it. And fear Allah: truly Allah is severe in punishment. " [Qur'an 59:7]
From school, we are given four heads:
1. Our faith should be true and sincere,
2. We must be prepared to show it in deeds of charity to our fellow-men,
3. We must be good citizens, supporting social organizations, and
4. Our own individual soul must be firm and unshaken in all circumstances.
This is your answer. If you follow 1 through 4 than it is not OK nor is it a lost cause.
2006-10-15 13:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by J. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your being nice is creepy to them because it's not who you are. Maybe it appears fake to them if you're really trying to be nice instead of just being nice.
To be nice: just imagine how you'd like to be treated in a situation and then treat the person you're with in that way. That kind of thing comes from the heart and isn't made up and likely won't be so creepy for your friends.
2006-10-15 13:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by T_Jania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be maturing and thinking more like a responsible adult. Don't listen to your friends. As people grow they make changes. Seems like yours are for the better. You may grow up faster then your friends and may have to make new friends. Do what your heart is telling you to. Being nice is always the better way to go.
2006-10-15 17:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems pretty clear to me that some of your meanness was influenced by peer pressure. I mean do your friends think your biting comments are funny? Well that's the problem isn't it. You have to decide if you want your life dictated to you by your friends or do you want to be your own person. Take a chance and grow.
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2006-10-15 13:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being nice for the sake of Allah, it will pay of in the end inshaallah
2006-10-15 13:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Muslimah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHANGE!! BE GOOD!! I have been bullied by people like you in school and I didnt like it!!! your friends are pricks!
Or you could stay the same and go to hell!!!!
2006-10-15 13:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by JennyfferBCN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋