Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months. I love him to death but sometimes he just gets on my nerves. He's in college and it's my senior year in high school and i feel like i should be living it up, but i feel held back. Talking to any other guy about anything is an absolute NO! I'm curious to see what else is out there, but on the other hand, i dont want to risk losing the one guy i might love. what do i do?
2006-10-15 06:34:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill, my sweet.
2006-10-15 06:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by robert43041 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women feel this way sometime and if I had not read that part about talking to another guy is an absolute no I would of told you to just tell him you need space. I've always dated older guys and while sometimes it is nice because they are more mature others just see a younger woman (especially one still in HS) as easier to control.
When I 1st came to college there was this girl with a bf that sounds a bit like yours he was like 5 hrs away and she would have to call him before she took anyone to Wendy's or before she went to dinner or shower to let him know. Shes still with him now. He makes her cry all the time. We don't talk much but she has classes w/my bf and he says she comes to class a lot crying.
You should probably break it off you do not want to let yourself get stuck like this that's what happens to a lot of girls because they hold on to this hope that he will change. Your young live it up and don't let him hold you back tell him its over. Have other people with you...controlling men are un predictable when they think they have lost control. good luck!
2006-10-15 06:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young and you shouldn't be tied down right now. You never know, secretly he might feel the same. You want to come to him as a whole woman don't you? If you have reservations about the relationship you won't be the woman he needs. Talk to him, maybe you should take a break from each other for a while, if it was meant to be, he will come back to you. Everyone deserves someone that is sure of their love. Besides, better you find out now than to get married and have these feelings. You are not feeling anything that you should be ashamed of. Good luck to you.
2006-10-15 06:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even out of high school...the chances that this guy is "the one" for you are slim...you're not happy, you feel tied down, and apparently he's got a control issue if you cannot speak to other guys...
Let him go...his control problem will get worse the longer y'all are together and the more serious you become...you, on the other hand, and still young and need to experience more out of life, love, and relationships before making a decision on who is the one you want to settle down with for a while...there's no rush...don't short change yourself or cause yourself to miss out on things because of someone else...
You're desire to be single is the clue-by-four for you...this guy isn't a right one for you, if you'd actually rather be single (no matter how much you dig him)...
Let him go and live your life...no regrets...
2006-10-15 06:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you love him, cause you said you might love him. Now I have learned that if you let some thing go, and it comes back to you then it was ment, but if it don't then it was ment for you to follow your heart else where. But through all that let it be known that you will get hurt, rather if it's loosing him or keeping him.
2006-10-15 06:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by bossimini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, don't let him go. Ask for space and be able to hang out with friends, both guys and girls..if you can't, he has some insecurity issues..can you handle that issue for a long time? You'll know what's right in your heart..no one can tell you what is right or wrong for you. If you love him, don't give him up. You'll regret it.
2006-10-15 06:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U're in senior year of HS and he's in college. You are seriously missing out. Next year when you go off to college you will definitely have made up your mind to be single.
2006-10-15 06:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by hp one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accept reality. You're NOT "in" a relationship.
Talk with a relationship counselor. Understand that you're probably not mature/experienced enough to make a commitment (that's not "wrong"...just reality). When you ARE mature and experienced enough to make a commitment, then you should. For now, you aren't
2006-10-15 06:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...welll are u sure that u love him? or do u feel this way only when he gets on ur nerves....coz my bf when he does the same i feel i wanna kill myself not only leave him...u know mayb u r right in the thing of not talkin to other guys about it...but...why dont u think it over....coz mayb what u feel is that u r being used to his prescence in ur life...or anythin but ove...
tryiin thinkin it over...if u felt u can go...then go!!
2006-10-15 06:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Blueberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be out having fun. Not sitting around home like a widow. You ARE single......ACT like it!
PLEASE enjoy your HS days. If you dont, you will live to regret it!
2006-10-15 06:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋