He's an amazing guy, but I am just not at the place he is. He is in love with me and I l ike him a lot, but I'm not sure if he's the one. I dont know if love happens right away or does it take longer for some people???
2006-10-15 06:31:40 · 12 answers · asked by twinkle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is a funny thing and sometimes it's not funny at all!
You don't have to be in love with the guy...liking him allot is good enough.
Time is the answer! Give the relationship some time to reveal itself. People use that word "love" to loosely if you ask me. It's better to be smart. If you have some one that's nice to you and treats you good eventually your feelings will grow. Just check him out a little while longer make sure it's not just a ploy.
Time will tell...good luck!
2006-10-15 06:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by californian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him back be honest. Tell him that he's wonderful, that you enjoy the time you spend together but that your not ready for the commitment he is. If he loves you, he won't mind waiting. Sometimes it does take one person longer then another to fall in love. However, don't lead him on either, If the time comes when you are positive he's not the one, be honest about that as well. This way you may be able to salvage a friendship at least.
2006-10-15 06:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exact same thing just happened to me. This guy told me he loved me , but I didn't feel the same, so I just thought to myself that maybe I need to get to know him better. So I told him that we should stay friends longer. During our friendship I found out some things that I didn't like about him, and I knew he wasn't the one. I had typed in a question when this happened to me, similar to yours. Someone gave me a GOOD answer, and I think this answer will help you. Type in the question" How do i tell a guy i'm not interested without hurting their feelings" it should pop up at the bottom of where your typing the question, and look at my best chosen answer, it should really help you, trust me.
I think that you should remain friends with this person, if you are friends right now. If you are together, you'll know he's not the one, if you have any doubts about him being the one. Follow your first instinct.
And please type in those exact words and you'll see ,my question at the bottom where your typing,where similar questions are found, it should have 8 answers click it and look at my best chosen answer. this really helped me, and I believe it will help you too.
2006-10-15 06:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by I ♥ Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly as you did in your question here. Don't pretend to be more involved than you are. That will only cause stress for both of you.
Love is one of those things that you can't deny and you can't fabricate. It's either there or it's not. But, love comes unexpectantly and for a plethera or reasons. Sometimes it takes time, sometimes it's there at first sight. Sometimes it's great for you. It the best for you with the best person. And unfortunately sometimes it hurts, it's absolutely at the wrong time with the wrong person.
I can tell you that it is always good when you happen to be best friends with the person you love.
2006-10-15 06:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by BParker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in some cases it does take a while for some people to reveal themselves thats why LOVE takes so long in other cases its love at first sight! if you dont intend on going out with him tell him! you could be close friends maybe that way your love for each other will grow, but think carefully cos that guy could be the love of your life and you dont quite just know it yet!
2006-10-15 06:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by ladies man! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it takes 2 weeks, for others it takes 2 years, it all depends on how you look at things, and what the word love means to you! To him, Love might mean talking to you and loving you, while to you love might mean marriage and having a connection. So everyone looks at the word love differently.
2006-10-15 06:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by tRaCi3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl take longer than others to fall in love. you like him and respect him thats ok. keep going with this. you dont have to both be in love at the same time. read tips on dating and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-10-15 06:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance love depends on happenstance!it's not an love just an attractions towards you.It's up to you how to turn that attractions into a love with you.
2006-10-15 06:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Tell him you want to remain friends, and if your feelings change, let it happen naturally.xxxx
2006-10-15 06:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by stiflersmom29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that you might fall in that position one day but for now you don't feel the same way
2006-10-15 06:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋