If you adopted a child who later turned out to be very troubled,?

Question

would you ever choose to un-adopt him? Thoughtful answers only, please.

Answer 1

Personally, I would not even think about giving this child up. When you make the move to adopt, you should treat this child just as if you gave birth to him yourself. They need so much love and understanding. You wouldn't give up your own biological child would you? There are avenues which you can search out to help him. Don't give up on this child, now is when they need you most. I know it's hard, but bringing them through this will create a bond that's everlasting.

Answer 2

I don't think you should ever un-adopt a child. I think that kids can be incredibly frustrating and trying but it's never fair to un-adopt them. The abandonment of un-adopting them would do so much damage to them, even if they are very troubled.

I think the best thing you can do for them is try to get them help, and if they don't want it then you can't do anything about it. I would suggest getting some therapy so that you can deal with the situation in the best way without making the situation worse and maybe see if you can do anything to make the situation any better.

I hope that whatever situation prompted this question works out well for you, make sure to get lots of support, it sounds like you will need it.

Answer 3

If you have a child the regular way and the child turned out to very troubled and caused a lot of problems, would you send him to an orphanage? Of course you wouldn't because no matter what you love him and being adopted is no different. In both circumstances you try and get him help and stick it out praying he will come around.

Answer 4

Never! If the child turned out troubled, I would think maybe I did something wrong, and need to make it right some how. If you're just going to give up, why did you adopt in the first place?

Answer 5

in order for you to ask this question i think it means that you don't have a lot of love for this child. which is okay, i am not judging you, what you did by adopting the child is noble. this child deserves unconditional love, and if you can't give that to him/her, then i think there is probably someplace for him/her to receive that, and maybe you should explore that option.
if you do feel like there is any chance that this child could change, i think you should get therapy for the child and the whole family with the child. give the child a chance to grow and learn and maybe let go of past influences and struggles that may way him/her down.
good luck, i know that it will be hard to make a decision no matter what people say here.

Answer 6

if you feel in your heart that its not working out and have given up trying, by all means un-adopt him.. but if you feel you love him, give it more time.. love can build bridges.. Montel, had parents on this week, with troubled kids, and one 17 year old said she was a very naughty girl, until the doctor found her 2 be bi-poplar. something maybe you can check into about your son.. God's Blessing ~

Answer 7

No way I would continue to try to help him out after all if this was your a blood child you wouldn;t take them to the adoption agency so someone else can take them - tempted maybe but you would never take them there so be patient and stick with this troubled kid

Answer 8

No. Once that child joins your family he is your responsibility. To love, teach, and take care of. There are many biological parents who have troubled children & they can't just give them back.

Answer 9

I would try to help, or get a councelor or something, last choice is to "un-adopt"

Answer 10

No you should not un-adopt him.Most likely its not his falt,and should not be punished for it.We all need some one to love us no matter what problems we have.