i'm trying really hard to accept the fact that i'll never have what i long for but why is this so hard. i'm trying to be rational and sensible about it but oftentimes i get depressed instead.
what do i say to myself to get over it
thanks
2006-10-15 06:11:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
the more you try to forget, the more you remember!
2006-10-15 06:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by jack j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont try hard to accept or be rational or sensible. Just let it be coz its a natural process and it takes a while for it to run its course. Youre feeling a sense of loss and anytime you feel that way you go through the stages of grief. I think theres 5 or something: Denial, anger, depression, more anger then finally acceptance. Just be easy on yourself and dont think that you shouldnt feel a certain way coz its not mature or sensible. Emotions arent sensible, so you just gotta be nice to yourself and feel whatever you feel. Hope that helps a bit.
2006-10-17 09:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Eoin B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you think that you can't get what you want because you're just not good enough? If that's the case, not getting what you want is a confirmation that you're less than other people and that's a feeling you will get depressed about. If that's not the case, then maybe you can go for the next best thing? Whatever that may be. Or maybe what you want is not really what you need and in that case there's something out there that's way, way better and waiting for you to come and get it.
2006-10-15 13:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you long for but trying to forget something that important will most likely not work. You should try to work on learning to accept your life for what it is. Everybody has positive aspects in their lives and you should try to focus on those. If you feel that you are suffering from a significant bout of depression I would recommend seeing a psychologist. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-15 13:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Vehlt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing man or baby.
I was once told a very true thing: if you fight reality you'll always be unhappy. The only salvation lies in acceptance of what you have rather than trying to forget about what is lacking. Try to love and protect yourself.
2006-10-15 13:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Empea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not knowing what it is that you long for, i can only suggest that you try to involve yourself in other activities to occupy your mind and time. are there alternatives to what you desire? most disappontments come from being programmed too strongly about the value of certain achievements that are really not achievements but are dependent goals of normalcy .... i.e., have children, learn to fly, both of which can be unattainable through physical limitations or imperfections of your physiology. re-evaluate your goals to see if their premise is overrated ... for example you can adopt children if you want them, but if the birthing experience or "ownership" of children has undue importance placed on it, then you are having children for the wrong reasons. so, look at alternatives, and set goals in shorter segments that are measurable and achievable. good luck!
2006-10-15 13:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Just go on with life. I mean there's no use wollowing over something that you know you can't have. Just make the best out of the things you do. And if you feel really bad then always know that there is help out there for you.
2006-10-15 15:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends what it was that you longed for. Try to find other things in life to look forward to. Make new goals. Keep busy.
2006-10-15 13:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is it that you are trying to get over if you don't mind my asking?
2006-10-15 13:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Honey85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋