My mum and dad got separated when I was 4 and it affected me and I promised myself I would never fall in love or get married. My decision is affecting my chances of getting a date...well a shag to be honest. Please advise me...
2006-10-15 05:39:37 · 36 answers · asked by Hacker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to cool hacker
i think you will get a girlfriend cause u r cool and got a gr8 sense of humor
oh by the way i have changed my email so i can email you
2006-10-15 07:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by fran g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of my parents have been married 4 times. I swore that I would never be like that and was engaged several times before marrying. My advice to you is go ahead and date. If all you are looking for is a shag well then I think you deserve what ever you get. But if you have the love for that person that you should have before shagging then it will be ok.
You have to believe that you are worthy of the people you like and have a good attitude. If you feel like you are worthless, everyone will see you that way. If you are happy, outgoing and a great person on the inside you will attract the right girls and be happy with someone in the end. Most people don't find their soul mate in their first shag/boy-girl friend, so don't count on it being that way.
Good Luck!
2006-10-15 05:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kelliegh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why punish yourself like that? Your parents split up, but that doesn't mean you will. And by protecting yourself from being hurt, you are preventing yourself experiencing some of the best things in life. Anyone who's in love will tell you how wonderful it is, and the knowledge of how unhappy you'd be if you lost that love is part of the pleasure in a weird way.
And you may well get a few meaningless shags while you're young and healthy, but what happens when you're 50 with a beer gut and wrinkles and no one to love you?
I'm sorry but I think that this whole 'i'll never fall in love' thing is a cop-out. You need to get yourself together and get out there. Don't close off possibilities before you've even given them a chance. If your parents break-up is still seriously affecting you (and you're not just scared of rejection) then you need to speak to a professional. Your hard-line stance on this is going to ruin yor life otherwise.
2006-10-15 05:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your letting your past interfere with your present just because your mom and dad didn't work out that doesn't mean that your relationships wont you don't have to follow in their footsteps your making yourself miserable from something that happened when you wer 4 you cant let 1 thing rewen the rest of your life i know how you feel my parents split when I was little also but I never vowed that I wouldn't marry anyone I just learned from their mistakes and vowed not to do the same things as my parents did.Maybe you can talk to your parents and tell them how badly this has affected you and maybe they can help you through your problems or maybe consider talking to a councilor about it I know every guy hates going to a councilor and they think the only thing they do is (talk about their feelings) but but it is not just like that.Just try it 1 time. Tori
2006-10-15 06:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum and dad divorced when i was a young age, i thort oh no im goin to follow in my mums footsteps and no-one will love me..
Dont be put off by the past look forward to the future and think im going to get a girlfriend im going to b successful. dont just use a girl for a shag thou.
2006-10-15 05:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by vicky_js23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you shouldn't let yr parents separation put a damper on yr own life. every second marriage ends up this way. its just a mutual respect for a partnership to stay together so don't think yrs will come to an end when you marry. yes you will eventually fall in love and marry. read tips on dating and relationships to better help you on this site
2006-10-15 05:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a retard
whos mom and dad isnt divorced?
you WILL NEVER get any ***** or a shag as you call it Austin Powers, if you keep running around calling yourself COOL HACKER
get a life and go pay for some *** if you cant get a SHAG
2006-10-15 05:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by WANTED 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unlike the persons before me I believe that there is somebody out there for you. Relationships are all about compromise as much as you give you should get...but women tend to give later. Therefore get out there and find yourself a date by doing the common thing to do GO WHERE THERE IS WOMEN. Talk to them find out what they like and enjoy their company. Men are natural beast and desire SEX starting in the teens, yet you have to learn to restrain this desire and start a relationship COMPENSATION will come later.
2006-10-15 05:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by wiseob3oo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a shag or a girl?
Girls are not born to get shagged by you.
You have such low opinions of women, you derseve to remain single.
2006-10-15 05:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tatiana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont get in love then get in shag and go.
be strong man.
2006-10-15 05:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by yiannis the greek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋