2006-10-15 05:31:15 · 34 answers · asked by debi r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Write him off in your history book, as an EX BOYFRIEND.
If he doesn't know how to respect you at the boyfriend level, don't expect him to suddenly respect you if the relationship grows to the next level.
2006-10-15 05:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can abuse YOU unless you LET them.
When someone calls you names, you are letting them do it and saying to them it is Okay to call names. It rests with you how you handle it.
How do you stop it? Tell him like it is. You will not put up with this nonsense. Give him time to correct, such as, he will never repeat such a behaviour and he must show mutual respect or you will have to go it alone. And then do it if it ever happens again.
Be prepared. Because, you do not need such abuse from anyone.
This is how you stop things dead on its tracks. Many woman stay in abusive relationship without knowing what the right approach is. I hope women reading this also learn from it.
Anything that happens the FIRST time that you do not approve should be the LAST one. That's it. This is the mantra.
2006-10-15 06:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The use of such bad language towards you is a sign of agressiveness.
It could also be one of the first steps towards more agressive type behaviours as the relationship progresses.
Men who bash their partners don't do it straight away. They wait for the relationship to build up over months or years. As the relationship grows the woman feels like she 'belongs', 'needs' or 'loves' him. He knows that she is unlikely to leave him once the relationship has carried on this far that is ehy he is not afraid to hit her. He knows she isn't going anywhere. And if she does, she'll be back later anyway.
You know what you need to do :(
Be very careful and look after yourself. Would you like your future children to see their dad call their mummy a F %4# C43?
2006-10-15 05:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very childish to call names in any kind of relationship. If you stay with someone who calls names you are only asking for more of the same because you are then telling him it's ok to talk to you in that manner. We teach other people how to treat us when we let these things slide by. Take a stand and let him know that you will not tolerate being verbally abused in any situation. Good luck
2006-10-15 05:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by bugeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave him. He seems to be not quite the guy that any woman deserves. I don't know what happened in this situation, but in any situation, this just doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. If it's not okay with you that he calls you that (and it really shouldn't be), then you need to tell him that it's not okay. Honestly, you can do better, honey!
2006-10-15 05:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is an obvious "IT'S OVER"!!! I would NEVER let anyone (especially someone I love and is supposed to love me) say ANYTHING like this to me. It is beyond intolerable!!!
There are too many other great guys out there, that will treat you the way you should be treated to stick in a relationship with such an immature idiot!
2006-10-15 05:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave and NEVER take his phone calls OR visits again
IF you accept this - then it will ONLY get worse - I KNOW from experience of being a telephone crisis line counsellor -
IF you stay - I can almost guarantee you that in 2 - 3 years he will be hitting you and maybe killing you
He does NOT respect you - and you have to respect yourself FIRST - so get the H### out of there
2006-10-15 05:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if a man who is suppose to respect you and calls you that awful name, then he has no respect...ask yourself this, "how does he treat his own mother or sister(s)?", "when referring to other woman, does he use that same language?" You can be angry at your significant other, but using vulgar language is not necessary. He seems like the type who is or will be physically abusive.
2006-10-15 08:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now. I had a boyfriend who called me that all the time. it can be the start of serious abuse. you need to get out as soon as you can. please...before something really bad happens. trust me. i know.
2006-10-15 05:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by happinesssuks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd slap his face and tell him to get out of my house! or I'd get the hell out of his house if I was there. You shouldn't take something like that, if you do, he'll think it's ok to do it all the time and then you're stuck in a life of verbal abuse, and you don't want that. Believe me...I've lived through that and it's hard to move on and trust other guys after you finally kick his a** out!
2006-10-15 05:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋