2006-10-15 05:31:02 · 8 answers · asked by Miss_Asia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that alot of people do feel that way, but suprisingly there are some guys out here who do want families as well. Some guys like kids and like to spend time with children because they don't have any of their own or because they are use to spending time with children in their families like nieces and nephews, godchildren, etc. It just really depends on the man's personality and values, as well as his past relationships. Some men don't like to get involved because they don't want to hurt the children. They might become attached to the kids but things don't work out with the mom, and the kids are going to be really affected in the end. Also, some men are put in situations where the pressure is on them to be the alternate dad or to live up to the status of the children's actual father. If you are not use to being a parent, it's going to get to you when someone is always saying that their ex wasn't as good to the children, or was excellent. It seems like they want and need you to step up and be the better parent. I know it does come off as selfish, but I can see why some of the factors do push some men away. I really do believe that there are more guys today that do want to have families, so it doesn't really bother them if you already have kids. Just my take on it.
2006-10-15 05:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to a certain extent with you. Most of the time the best choice would be to go for a man who has kids too and is single. that in my personal opinion would be the only feasible option. If you get a guy who is deeply interested in you and your kids without any interest, that would be one of the greatest day in relationships!!!!
2006-10-15 12:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by bh37bh37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman in question...as well as the man in question. Also depends on how many children the woman already has.
If she's a single/divorced mom with one child...probably not that big of a deal. If she's a SINGLE mother of eight children (each of which from a different man)...YIKES!...run and hide!
2006-10-15 12:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't ~ I have two kids and guys talk to me as much as they did when I didn't have any ~ Just don't seem too desperate, have your stuff together ~ If a guy is interested and attracted to you, he will talk to you ~ If he has a problem with you having kids, then he's immature and you don't want or need that anyway.
2006-10-15 12:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think like that myself but you would be surprised at how many guys would date females with kids.My fiancee is with me and I have 2 ..
2006-10-15 12:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be right about that ... but it shouldn't be that way.
I think a pre-made family just scares most guys these days...
...if they really care for you, then they will except and love your kids as well. They are a part of you....Right ?
2006-10-15 12:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey babe,absolutely not true,you just have to find the right person!your kids have to be the judges of that!
2006-10-15 12:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by jose_valle76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, i also have a child and men do approach me and ask me out but either they are scared, or just interested in getting you in bed. they are interested in me but not the whole me (meaning my child)
2006-10-15 12:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋