I wait tables, and I was waiting on this couple, and the lady obviously had issues. She was very rude. And, her husband over-tipped me, probably to make up for what a rude ****** she was. He left me $60.00 on a $200.00 tab. And she asked me for some of it back. I was actually going to give it to her, bacause I was too busy to worry about it, but he freaked out on her when he found out what she was doing. He told me not to think about giving her some of it. They left fighting and I felt really bad.
2006-10-15 05:30:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The place where I work is spendy. PLUS, they had aps, and 2 bottles of wine. That's why it was (close to) $200.00.
2006-10-15 05:47:54 · update #1
Yes,the woman needs a tip. She needs to be tipped off a large building.
2006-10-15 05:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normally the tip for good service on $200 would be $40. Its not up to you to question how much is left for you, but it sounds like he was trying to make up for a difficult partner. I find that appropriate. My ex father in law is a cheap and demanding. He has plenty of money but thinks he's doing someone a favor by leaving a $1 for a dinner party of six. He'll say that's what he's left since he was a grown man, but that was when they were serving dinosaur steaks in caves. We always go behind him and make up the tip, its not the waiter or waitress's fault he's a moron.
Likewise in this situation, the wife had no business stealing from you. Once it left his hand, it belonged to you and she might as well have been taking it out of your purse. Thank goodness most people are not this ugly. Don't worry about the fight, you didn't cause it, nor can you help it. And maybe he'll be back after the divorce, he sounds like a nice guy.
2006-10-15 05:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you were right to oblige her request but only because you are obviously well mannered and would have done so to avoid an ugly scene. I am quite glad the husband prevented the return of the tip because I am certain you deserved it. That woman (certainly not a "lady") was appallingly rude and exhibited a despicable lack of social graces. I say don't give it another thought... especially the fighting bit. I bet they do that no matter what. Some couples argue just for sport.
2006-10-15 05:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've gotten huge tips a couple times (for a medium-sized place, nothing too fancy), and I've actually checked with whomever *left* the tip if it was a mistake. Some people grab a 20 when they meant a 10. Or sometimes 2 10s stuck together in the wallet. In all cases they meant it, but thanked me for asking.
So sometimes it is a mistake, but in your case....go shopping!
2006-10-15 06:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a former waitress I say: Enjoy the blingin' tip and get yourself a margarita and a pizza! ^^ Rock on for making that much money. And that lady was a jerk-off. Don't worry sweetie, she may be a b**ch but so is Karma..she'll get hers..hopefully in the form of her kinder husband leaving her butt. (anyone else concerned for the poor guy married to that wench?)
2006-10-15 08:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by misferet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a waitress, not a marriage counsellor! If there were issues on the size of the tip, it was between the husband and wife. Your female customer was using you to vent at her husband, and had no right to further show her rudeness to you. Forgive and forget the event, enjoy your generous tip, and move on. You have much bigger fish to fry....
2006-10-15 06:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not return a tip that was intended. If it were a possible mistake or misunderstanding, sure. In this case I'm sure you earned the tip and should not give in to somebody like that. Maybe next time she'll stay home if she wants to save money. Remember that you can't please some of the people none of the time, and keep smiling--your next table may stiff you!
2006-10-15 05:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by island girl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it was really rude of that woman to ask for the tip back. Good for you for not giving it back to her. If she did not want her husband to leave you a big tip, she should have told him before he gave it to you.
2006-10-15 05:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by DaisynSam 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No she had no right to put you in the middle of that. She needed to take it up with her husband. Sounds to me like she needs a reality check. You were right in not giving it back.
2006-10-15 10:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that too. I over tip if my hubby is grumpy to the waitstaff or if the kids make a big mess. Don't feel bad. She was in the wrong be happy that the guy was so nice
2006-10-15 05:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by cc 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋