Any advice please?

Question

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Answer 1

Normally I flag URL posts due to spam... but you're an exception.

You are in classic depression.

Part of the reasons are no doubt "situational" which means that if things were different you wouldn't be so depressed.

Part also might be "chemical", which would mean that your brain's chemicals are out of balance.

I'd suggest:

- A trip to the doc to talk about your depression, in the hopes that you'll get a prescription for antidepressants. You'll take these for a while, until you get things cleaned up.

- You'll clean things up with therapy. You're in a tough part of your life -- many people crash and burn while getting thru college. College is a very long thing, with few rewards along the way. It's compared to running a marathon for a reason, and it sounds like you're hitting the wall.

- You need to become more independant of your parents. Therapy will help there too.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, listen. You're in a bad moment right now but it will pass. Yes, it's probably some form of depression which is so frightening, it's just like a black hole that swallows you up. You are also sensitive and the world is harder for those that are sensitive (a statement from one sensitive person to another...!).

I am forty years old and I can look at my life and see so many different chapters. There were times that I thought I would never get out of the fixes I was in, but I did.

I don't totally understand your parents. I have two daughters and my duty as a parent is to care for them, guide them, nourish them, inspire them... even in the bad times I should be their rock. This doesn't mean bailing them out financially, but at least being practical and helping them balance their lives. I am just so sad to read that you think you are worthless - do you really feel that? It's just not true, nobody is worthless.

Your salvation lies in two things - getting through college without letting your situation beat you and finding the company of others that make you feel good about yourself. We all have a 'tribe' out there which may not actually be our family. Find those that understand and appreciate you and don't court negativity and those that harm you, they will not help you learn to love yourself. There are many people out there with big hearts to help and guide you and not all come in the guise of counsellors and doctors.

Courage.

Answer 3

This is very hard for me to answer it has brought tears to my eyes. My parents did the same thing to me growing up and I understand. I have had counseling and it was ok but didn't help much. It was when I was in so much pain and I accepted Jesus as my lord and savior and started watching the gospel on T.V. and learning what my parents did to me was wrong and they acted out of their pain an ignorance and immaturity of not knowing how to be parents. I got help and became a better parent. I notice that I still carry a lot of the hurt and ways, but I don't carry them over to my child. I am still working on my ways and feelings but the lord helps me every step of the way and I do nothing without talking to him. You must develop this habit and the ability to listen to the way the lord is leading.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel the same way. "Going away" doesn't help anyone at all because your parents will end up feeling lousy that they couldn't help you. And also your spirit will still be feeling the same. Try to tell your parents, they'll thank you for telling them. TRUST ME THINGS WILL GET BETTER you just have to try.

Answer 5

I kind of know how you feel, my dad is just like that. I OWE him for everything, my life even. You may owe them money, but you DO NOT owe them your life. You have a right to be happy and no one, not even your parents, have the right to take that away from you. My advice is to get through college, pay them back, then go on with your life. There is so much out there for you, this is just a stage in your life. You are there now, but who knows, in a few years you may be on to something new and happy. Don't judge the rest of you life on how your living now, because if you have the strength you can get out of this and make your life good. Who knows what the future holds? I felt like that cause my dad left then acted like i owed him everything for nothing and i thought that my life was over when i was 16 years old. But now i see that i can change my life, i can make everything better for myself it i just try hard enough. You have to want a better life to get it. Don't let your parents get you down, you'll be out of their lives soon enough.

Don't cut yourself, its pointless and you just have scars you have to explain later in your life. I did that and now i have people look at my wierd and i find myself explaining it to people and it feels bad. You dont want to go through your life explaining something that happened long ago.

I dont know where you live but if you live in the U.S most towns have free community clinics that have counseling centers where you can get treatment and meds for free, or almost free. It depends on your income. Your in college so im guessing your over 18, so you can get treatment without your parents even finding out about it. I hope that everything works out for you. Don't feel like a burden because if your parents are like you describe them, they are the burden.

Answer 6

You may write your dreams to me. Dream analysis could be of help.

Answer 7

i feel the exact same way