ok i really like this guy... he is really nice and we went to homecoming together but we arent dating..... and i dont no if i should ask him out or not..i would but the problem is that my ex boyfriend beats up all my new boyfriends because he wants me back and i refuse to go back to him b/c he hit me once and i took him back cuz he said he would never do it again and then he got mad a few months later and he beat me up.. so what should i do ???
2006-10-15 05:11:20 · 16 answers · asked by lilmissthang025 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off, good for you for not going back... to the abusive ex, you need to take care of the problem with him. How old are you? You and / or your parents need to get a restraining order on him. He sounds quite psycho, and you need to stay away from him.
Kind of off the subject but....
In high school a mother who’s daughter was murdered by her boyfriend came and told her daughters story of how he apologized begged for her to forgive him and asked her out one last time to talk. And he brutally killed her and set her car on fire. These things happen so please please be careful and stay away from your ex.
And on answering the question about the new guy. If you think he is a good guy and you like him.. get to know him take things slow and if you are worried about your ex doing something to him make your friendship/relationship discrete. You deserve to be happy and treated well... you might think of explaining the situation with your abusive ex to the new guy so he is aware, it would be unfair to let him be surprised by the situation... and he may consider a restraining order as well... and take things from there...
But do something about the ex. I assume you are in high school and you need to let a councilor, teacher or parent know. And I would go as far as getting a restraining order on this guy. If he was hurting you before he can do it again and he may very well try.
Be careful, and good luck.
2006-10-15 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tajuana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you really care about the new guy and it is cool that you would try to protect him from your ex. You still deserve to be happy though so you should do what is right for you. Your ex seems very immature and seems like he needs to grow up, he can't beat up everyone, so he is going to have to learn how to let you go. You should let the new guy know about your ex's behavior, how he is very violent, so that in case something goes wrong, he will know and not try to take it out on you. You know, because sometimes females will know that they have jealous ex's but won't really warn their new guys, so then it is almost like the person wanted the guys to fight over them. You don't seem like the type, so just let him know so that he won't feel betrayed if he ever runs into problems with your ex in the future. Also, you should take out a harassment report against him, because he is really harassing you and he shouldn't get away with it. Just do what is going to make you happy.
2006-10-15 12:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask him out but first go to the authorities and and let your ex bf spend some time in the department of corrections and see how they feel about wimps that beat up women
2006-10-15 12:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to date a bouncer! On the serious side, you need to get proof, and have him arrested. Maybe then he will use common sense. In my opinion, it was a mistake to take him back the first time. Time useally makes things better, so maybe a break from dating would help you. Then try dating a bouncer! Your ex doesn't deserve to date trash, so were you with him to begin with?
2006-10-15 12:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the police about ur ex beating all those people up and then ask out the other guy
2006-10-15 12:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
restraining order, and live your life and date the guy you are interested now. Don't let that fool run your life. You were smart enough to leave him because he hit you (good job) Now be smart enough to completely get him out of your life and move on like he never existed!!!
2006-10-15 12:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by shoe sistah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second the restraining order...and you should talk to someone who can whoop your boyfriends *** so that when you decide to talk to the guy you like and homey tries to beat him up...either that new guy or the guy you hired can whoop his *** and leave you alone.....but i'd do the restraining order first.
2006-10-15 12:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell someone about the abuse that is going on. Then it would stop or not be so sever. Then I think you should be with whatever guy you like.
2006-10-15 12:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by miss_mini_maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first go to the cops and take care of the ex and then ask the other guy.
2006-10-15 12:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask God for help, I wouldn't know what to do, but you do need help before you are old and gray and still being beaten up by men.
2006-10-15 12:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by lightellen3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋