And how do you feel about that?
2006-10-15 05:09:23 · 6 answers · asked by gene_frequency 7 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
We don't like to talk about it, but adultery is a problem in the military, just like it is civilian life. We can improve the military situation, but nothing will get done unless we 1.) admit the problem exists, 2.) find the causes and enablers, and 3.) remove those causes and enablers.
It too often begins with a phone call to the spouse of a deployed member that goes "Hi Valerie…" instead of "Hello Mrs. Smith…" and ends with a ruined marriage and a ruined career.
NCOs: Don't let it happen to you. First name usage enhances vulnerability and might 'open up' more than your career is ready for. Spent 20 years active duty, have seen it happen. Would like to see it fixed. Ask your first sergeant about adultery, deployed spouses, and Article 15 actions.
Commanders: you especially have power to be part of the cure. I'm not reading anything into the spouse name request; my first sergeant and day-to-day experience proved everything to me, up close and personal. Your Article 15
2006-10-18 12:41:36 · update #1
and discharge files are part of the same legacy…you need no additional testimony from me and you probably know it. Simply put: the name information gets abused--regardless of intent--and needs to be safeguarded and confined to official records just like a SS#.
'Supporting the troops' is more than just putting bumper stickers on our cars…
…thanks,
-gene
2006-10-18 12:43:13 · update #2
You future kids might look like your boss.
2006-10-15 05:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As an NCO I will give you my opinon of why I would want it. When it comes to military spouses not everything has to be offical business. Your boss may want it just to call her up as more of a friend of yours and just ask how things are going at home and see if she needs everything. Using a first name allow her to feel more comfortable and able to open up more if there is a problem that she needs help with.
2006-10-15 15:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As a commander it is common practice to ask your soldiers their spouses first names so that they can be contacted with information through the FRG (Family Readiness Group). The intent is to keep them informed even when you may not have access to e-mail or a phone. Obviously, the military will want to know your spouses first name for other, more official, reasons like life insurance and next of kin notification, but if your immediate supervisor is asking it is probably just for the FRG. Don't read into it - its completely normal.
2006-10-15 12:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
He is required by regulation to offer your spouse command information and ensure she is receiving the proper benefits. This applies to all your dependents, not just your wife. This is nothing to worry about.
2006-10-15 12:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Big Blair 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Look at it from the other direction -- as a boss, I considered it my responsbility to help out with my employees. If problems arose, I'd like to be able to to at least have the name of my employee's wife (or husband).
I don't think there is anything going on here (based on just him asking for her name). He's just trying to be involved in getting you back after your deployment. Sounds like he cares about how you and your family are doing.
2006-10-15 12:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Paul W 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
whats the bi deal they have ALL that info including her home addy and telephone number in your records anyway..........
Unless he is staying behind and does not want to fuss about looking it up cant see your issue
2006-10-15 12:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋