How does a parent get a child to hate the other parent after only 4 months?

Question

The kid lived with the mom his whole life & had a great relationship. She never interfered with the dad's visits. But when he went to live w/dad (he liked dad's no rules policy)
he refused to talk to or visit his Mom. He calls her names when he does answer. Going to court won't help, there is only 1 judge & he is biased toward women.

Answer 1

It's a shame when a "parent" uses their own child to hurt the other parent. All you can do is try to get the case moved out of that county. If the kid is on the phone & starts to be rude tell her to say I need to go, "Love you, Bye" & hang up. Even if it's a 10 second call. Don't let her give up. Her child obviously needs her!
In my prayers...

Answer 2

I personally hate to hear stuff like this. To me, as a responsible parent, regardless of what happened between the two of you, you both need to put resentments aside and put your emphasis on what is best for your child. For your ex hubbie to be saying things and stopping visits, all of it, well it is just a shame, so immature. I can only tell you that from my nieces, who went through a divorce sounding similar to yours, in time they will see and know the real truth when they are old enough! In the meantime, I am sorry you have to go through this. It is just plain wrong and also that you can't even take it to the courts? You must live in a small town, only one biased judge???? If any way possible to get a lawyer, to get another judge or do something legally, even take it out of the area in which you live, would be a great thing! I wish you only the best and pray that in time, the truth shall set you free and your relationship will only improve with your kid!!! Best of everything, in the meantime, take care of YOU!!!

Answer 3

it sounds to me like there is a whole lot more than just a rule policy going on here

unfortunately children are easilly manipulated and influenced and some "parents" can be very unscrupuless when it comes to punnishing the other parent at the childs expense a horribly sad but all too common occurence and who really looses? yep the child!!!

Answer 4

because unfortuantely for her the dad apparebtly bad mouths his kids mom in front of him which is causing all this, srry to say but i have seen this before and nothing inclusing a judge can help. the kid has to make there own choices and once there grown hopefully they will see the light. the important thing is for the mom to continue being nice and pleasant to the dad and trying to be that way to her son as well. kill them with kindness as they say. eventually the son will see the light

Answer 5

there are no telling what the dad is telling the child about his mom. mom need to get the child back because in the long run the child is going to suffer. mom need to get a lawyer to help her fight her case with the judge and the dad.

Answer 6

Very, very sad situation.
Made up stories or stories that were blown out of proportion. Kids will believe anything. All the mom can do is to love her child no matter what he says. One day the truth will be known.

Answer 7

Who had custody? How old is this kid? Who decided he was to live with father. I have to know more before I can give an informed answer.

Answer 8

It's usually that the kid thinks you may not like him if he suddenly has to live with his father. this is a tuff question though.

Answer 9

YOU NEVER WANT THE CHILD TO PURPOSELY HATE THE OTHER PARENT. THAT IS VERY WRONG. MY MOM TRIED DOING THAT TO ME. WHEN I TURNED 21 I MET HIM MYSELF AND DECIDED ON MY OWN THAT I DIDNT LIKE HIM. NEVER EVER FORCE YOUR CHILD TO HATE THE OTHER PARENT.

Answer 10

manipulation