he is very nice and buys me expensive gifts and never lets me pay, I have to admit I'm not a golddigger but I'm over analyzing the situation bcos I think I might need to move on.. Help !
2006-10-15 05:06:08 · 12 answers · asked by Candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm having the same issue. We've been dating a year and he is either busy or tired after work, so we usually see each other only on weekends and maybe a couple of hours during the week.
I have thought a lot about it and have weighed the positives and the negatives of staying with him. He treats me great and we always have fun together and we have a lot in common. I think I'd rather have him for a few days a week than some jerk on a regular basis.
Good guys are hard to find and some guys just need more space than others. I'd say as long as you are getting your needs met, stick it out. Also, I am wondering if you will ever get married and if you have discussed it? I think you'd see him more and that would give you something to look forward to.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-15 05:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years, hmmmmm.... Sorry to say this but I think he has a new girlfriend. There's an old saying that the peak of a relationship is it's in the third year. If you are not yet married by then. Well the guy might be looking for a greener pasture. The gifts are just overconpensassion for the things you don't know what he is up to.
2006-10-15 12:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by darkvadershield35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that all depends on what it is he is doing to make him self so busy? if the man has a job and that what is keeping him from seeing you more, i think it would be very selfish of you to break up with him because he is trying to get ahead in life. but if is out with friends all the time or is just sitting around at home and just not making time for you, then yes move on. so what if he buys you things please don't be one of those material girls, because if you are you will never meet someone that can truly make you happy.
2006-10-15 12:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going to give u the same advice i give my friend who always seems to meet "busy" guys. they are never too busy to do what they want to do. if a guy really wants to see u he will find a way to see u. he cant possibly be busy 24/7. i bet he finds time to hang out w/ friends and other leisure activities. chances are ur not the only one or he's not ur boyfriend like u think. not trying to be mean but my friend goes through the same thing bc she reads too much into these guys and thinks its more than it is. only u can make the decision.
2006-10-15 12:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-2 times a week is pretty average if u spend a good amount of time together on those times...and he sounds like a nice guy...i would say stick with it...dont give up
2006-10-15 12:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you waste 5 years of your life on him? You should have known right away that he was not that interested in you. He buys you things to make himself feel better about ignoring you the rest of the time.
2006-10-15 12:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is like a "weekend daddy" who sees his kids on the weekend and buys them all kinds of crap because he feels guilty for not seeing them more often.
This guy sounds the same way, or, you are the "other woman".
2006-10-15 12:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 YEARS? OMG PLEEZ , r u totally brain dead or wat gurl ? u seem very nice but plain stupid if he hasnt asked u to marry him by now he aint never gonna , 1 - 2 times a week omg , if ur half the gurl i think u might b, i wouldnt let u outa my sight ! YES MOVE ON !!
2006-10-15 12:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tim P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like yr not in love for you to think this way. dont hold on to a guy yr not in love with after all this time. let him move on also. read tips on relationships and more to help you on this site
2006-10-15 12:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES , I WOULD MOVE ON ..I MEAN HE SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOU
1-2 TIMES A WEEK , IS NOTHING ..I KNOW IF I HAD A GF , I WOULD WANT TO HAVE HER LIVING WITH ME!!!
2006-10-15 12:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by SWM 38 _4_ YOUNG GF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋