2006-10-15 05:01:58 · 30 answers · asked by caroline b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you find out sweetheart, please tell me i'm in the same boat.
2006-10-15 05:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I want to offer you a solution, and I will...but first I must point out a problem > then the solution.
Your questions sounds "needy"...and that might be the way your friends perceive you too.
It is possible you are doing everything right, and are a very valuable person, but you are not getting the "feedback" you need....
BECAUSE you project you "need" it.
Sounds like a downward spiral? Ya! it is!
To fix this:
Be the best person you can be.
Write down a long list of all the good stuff about you.
Let your BEST FRIEND study this list.
OH > your BEST FRIEND is YOU !!!
News huh?
Yes, YOU are your own best friend, and the sooner YOU begin to appreciate you,
the sooner others will too.
By this I mean, do your neat stuff that defines you, and then let that be part of your conversatiaons with others.
Example: "I just did something cool. I have been so frustrated with the tiny bibs on aprons that don't cover my blouse, that today I made myself a full front apron...and it was cool that I used the same material that matches my toaster cover and can opener cover I made before...ha ha ha ha...so now when I'm in the kitchen, not only is my blouse covered better, I blend in like
Sanda Lee! the table-scapes chick! ha ha ha ha"
That's an example how to show-off a bit, and make it fun. In this light-hearted way of presenting your skills, to remind others of one of your assests, you can give them a laugh too.
It all works together to make people see you in a brighter light.
IF YOU ARE a depressive personality, (you might be a little right now)...give yourself a huge lift by
doing something good for someone else to make their situation, or at least their mood, a bit better. It will come back to you, ....
IN WAYS YOU DO NOT EXPECT.
Do little caring things for others. They will remember. It is just amazing how much people notice what you do (or don't do) when a helping hand is needed.
It takes little time, and is GREATLY appreciated to send an e-card, or a us mail card to brighten someone's day.
Become a people person, and you will find yourself surrounded and loved and appreciated by many people, more and more than you will realize.
Quit being blue, and get going
doing things for others AND you.
stw
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2006-10-15 12:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am anyone, but I dont really know anything about you.
Maybe other people have the same problem.
We need to find a way to bring your ''light out from under the basket'', as is written in other sources.
When I was young and in high school, there was one particular girl that none of us ever gave the second look. Only later did we realize that she was one of the most beautiful and sweetest girls in the whole school For some strange reason, we missed her
charisma, because she was so shy, so distant.
You are a person that someone is looking for. Dont hide from that person.
2006-10-15 12:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say for certain as you haven't given much info, but do you think you're too focussed on being appreciated? It might be that you focus on yourself and what you expect rather than other people. My ex was completely focussed on being appreciated and in the end it had the opposite effect as it drove me mad - whenever he did anything for me he would expect total appreciation and would go mad if he thought I didn't appreciate him. Eventually I just stopped wanting him to do anything for me as I was so sick of him going on about being appreciated.
I'm not saying this is the same for you - but something for you to think about perhaps. Being overly concerned with appreciation just pushes people away.
2006-10-15 12:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are a mom I can see why u feel like that.They do appreciate u they are kids and won't show it.If it is your husband then u need to tell him..Otherwise if u are single then the only people that should appreciate u is your parents.They shouldn't have to tell u.
2006-10-15 12:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet that someone does. It is difficult for people to express appreciation. Sometimes people are not even AWARE of how they do appreciate another person.
2006-10-15 12:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by allsphears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just don't show their appreciation for you. You should talk to the people you are having this problem with.
2006-10-15 12:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there is someone out there that appreciates you and you may not even know it. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are alive and presumably well. Don't let others get you down.
2006-10-15 12:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause u've low self esteem that makes u feel that way.
I used to feel that way it because i feel and think abit different. But there'll be some one out who will appreciate you.
2006-10-15 12:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we know if we hardly know you...but i think you're making a bit of fuss, there's always someone who appreciate us a bit.
2006-10-15 12:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is may be bcuz of what u say, the way u respond , ur attire , ur performances. or either u go with people u dont have common ways that ar close.ur attitudes , ur moral
2006-10-15 12:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by Gwest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋