She's really making bad choices. No health insurance, no car insurance on a brand new car she received for graduation. My question is, as a mom should I intervene and point out all her mistakes to show her that she's making her life harder on herself, or just leave it alone and let her fall? I hate to see that happen tho.
2006-10-15 04:55:52 · 11 answers · asked by MarineMom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give her your best advice.If she doesn't want to listen,let her fall. She'll learn by her own mistakes! It doesn't mean you don't love her.
2006-10-15 05:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depend on if she's living at home or on her own. If she is living at home, at no matter what age, there should be certain rules or guidlines that she has to follow in order to stay there. If she's living on her own, than this is much harder. Don't point out all the mistakes. That would be harping her, and she's either going to rebel more, or, push you further away. If she's at home, simple, tell her what she has to do, in order to continue living there. If she's not at home, make a mom/daughter day and discuss everything openly and honestly. Explain to her if she has no car insurance, and gets into an accident, she could be sued and have nothing for the rest of her life. Just make it a fun day and try to talk to her about it. Find out why she doesnt have these things, if theres a way you can help or what?
2006-10-15 12:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by crazyami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can she afford car insurance? Does she have a job? Sit down with her and explain why she needs to have insurance. In some states, it's a law to have it if you have a new car licensed. In some it's not. If you're not insured where I live, you can lose your license if you are in an accident, you can even go to jail I think. I dont' think these are things any teenager wants to happen, so explain the consequences, not to mention having to pay a whole lot of money if something did happen. Accidents are just that, no one plans them. You can be the most cautious driver out there, but no one says the person next to you is.
2006-10-15 11:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by katesolo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like pretty normal stuff. She probably doesn't have money to pay for everything she wants and needs. That's hard for people that are making the transition from kid to adult. Don't lecture, but offer as much help and guidance as you can.
But, put insurance on that car. PLease. Before you live to regret it. Buy her some insurance and let her pay you for it. Maybe she can't come up with all of it every month, but you will sleep better at night knowing that she's not going to wreck a new car without any.
2006-10-15 12:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she asked for your opinion? Maybe you could mention your concerns only once. Then she knows how you feel about the situation and can make her own decision. It's not easy getting a job with benefits when your 18 and have very little experience. Maybe she can't afford car insurance(I assume it is optional in your state). Maybe you could give her a year of car insurance for christmas, (or whatever time length you determine is appropriate).
Whatever you decide to do, don't nag her. Once you've said something, don't repeat it. She heard you the first time and will make her own decision.
2006-10-15 12:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only choice is to speak your mind and leave it at that. What else can you do?
You can't physically take the car away can you? Is it in your name?
Being a parent of two supposedly grown boys I understand where you are coming from but it's no longer our decision.
Remember when you talk with her how you felt when your mother pointed out all of your mistakes. Although her heart was in the right place how did it come across??? You don't want to come across as being judgmental or making accusations. You want to come across as being concerned and concerned for her future.
Also, what are her reasons for not having insurance? Can you help her. I always hated it when my mother would point out everything I was doing wrong yet never once ask how she could help.
Good luck!
2006-10-15 12:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that i would sit down with her and point things out to her and offer some kind of help. maybe you could offer to take her to a place that she can get affordable car insurance. but once you have made your attempt to try to help her and she is still making bad choices, cut the strings. allow her to make the mistakes she needs to make to learn life's lessons. now might i add, if she continues on this path, and gets into trouble, lets say for not having car insurance, you have to show some tough love. and explain to her that you tried to help her and she did not want your help, so now she has to deal with it on her own, that's what adults do.
2006-10-15 12:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get insurance on that car. If it's totaled out chances are your gonna pay big time. If she lives away from home let her make the mistakes and pay the penalty. If not and she at home, Get tough, you still are the parent and she lives under your roof otherwise tell her to leave. after their on their own after awhile they see the light.
2006-10-15 12:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Zig Zag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have instilled a brain and commonsense in her long be fore now. Who was dumb enough to give her a new car with know insurance anyway??? Yes go ahead and tell her it will surprise her that you though all this now and not from day 1.
2006-10-15 12:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would defiantly talk to her about the car insurance that is jail time u know serious time.
2006-10-15 11:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by randomhero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋