Guide me to stop myself from the thought of commiting suicide.?

Question

Was in love for the first time because of his initiative but betrayed me.I know its not worth crying for such a person but how to make myself understand. Its 13 months over since I m totally shattered, unable to stand today also, dying every moment missing him.The thought of suicide occurs at times so strongly that I fail to make myself understand.When I gather senses, I fear that someday may be impulsively I may do something to myself. How shud I help myself.I have tried all possible ways: like keeping myself extremely busy, tried to hate him n wash him off, pray to god n etc n etc...but the mind n the heart again longs for him during each moment of rest.After all I cant be over occupied 24hrs.Plz help me or I may be no more.

Answer 1

Hi leena,
same thing happened to me dear, my gf of 8 years left me for another guy because he has more money then me. Dear, i was also shattered, my life was black and white. But our life is given once and for all, well to be precise that if he left you mean, he was not for you, someone better who loves you more than himself will come to you.. believe me.
u can mail me ur problem on [e-mail]
i can solve ur any prob.

Answer 2

Do you really want to kill yourself just because someone didn't love you?

I would be willing to bet that it goes much deeper than this. Like your feeling of self worth is very low. You probably ask yourself "how could anybody love me?" The question is how much do you love yourself?

The problem here is that you put the responsibility of your happiness onto someone else. When you need to be responsible for your own happiness. Our mate should ADD to our life, not BE our life. Learn to be happy by yourself and you will always be happy regardless of who comes and goes. Although you will feel times of sadness.... you will love yourself enough to pick up and go on.

As far as feeling better about things now...
Life is ever changing... today may not be so good but tomorrow will bring a change... unless you don't let tomorrow come. Ending your life will not make anything better. If you want change... you have to make change. And in order to accomplish this you must be alive.


""...but the mind n the heart again longs for him during each moment of rest"" I am willing to bet that it is not him you long for... but the happiness you once felt with him. You will again find this happiness but like I said you need to find it within yourself.

How you may ask???

Easy... through accomplishments...
Do things.. even if it is cleaning your home... then look back and see what you have accomplished.
Learn new things... life is an adventure and the more you learn the more you will grow.
Go back to college... what is your career goal? Have you accomplished it?

You can do this...

If you don't feel strong enough to pull yourself up then you may need some help. Nothing wrong with needing help. When our bodies and minds go through stress such as a break up or whatever things happen within our brain that we have no control over. It's called a chemical imbalance. If you are experiencing this then meds will help. They will help your chemicals become balanced so you can go about a normal life. However, what I said about change is still true... if you want change... you have to make a change... you can't do the same things over and over again and expect different results. The meds will only help balance you so that you can make the changes.

Answer 3

GIRL PLEASE, do you think he is upset over you? Do you think he is crying over you? Heartbreak might as well be a "death" of the relationship and yeah...it hurts like hell.
You have to pick yourself up.
You can let the world conquer you or you can face the world and let your presence be known.
There are far too many other fascinating people in the world worth trying to meet and experience and have realtionships with.
Everyone gets betrayed in some way or another at some time. Maybe this was your only time, you learn from it and you move on.
Ultimately its your decision and how you decide to live your life or let it go. No one can help you in this but you. But you can pull out of this. The first step is deciding you want to live.
Right now you are allowing life to pass you by, missing opportunities and beautiful days .

Answer 4

I don't believe people are in their "right mind" when they decide to take their own life. They are obviously severely depressed and no of no other alternative for their suffering. They need to be admitted to a mental facility to get treatment. People that are mentally healthy are not going to think of suicide. I have been there and believe me its not just a matter of "gee I think I will kill myself today". I was severely depressed at the time. Severe depression is a mental illness and you can have suicidal thoughts and not be "insane"

Answer 5

hey sweety ive been through the exact same thing... plzz dont take any ,ajor steps... the one whos made for u will come around any moment... tht jerk is not worth all this n definitely not worth yr life n tears!! the one who makes u cry is not worth yr tears n the one who is wont let u cry...... just hold on... take life on the positive note... look tht uve got one more oppurtunity to live life and find better ppl.... if u try and br happier then u will difinitely succeed.... plzzz dont take ne further step... talk to your friends about it.... it will ease yr heart... even im going through the same thing ex the sucide thoughts.... i think just ignore him.... if u love yr love let him go if he comes back hes yours...if not he never was.... no one is really worth all this ..... everyone deserves something better in life.. its just that , that SOME1 BETTER is already there waiting for u ..... but u are the one crying over yr past tht u cant find the new guy... now cheer up....

good luck and GOD BLESS =)

Answer 6

Seek professional help. There are phone listings provided through the internet as well as the yellow pages. You're letting this eat away at you and you need support. You can't detach yourself and as hard as letting go and moving on is, it's clearly taking a huge toll on you. Sweetheart, it's never worth killing yourself...look at what you've gained from all of this...look at yourself now and know who you are and what you want and need out of life, let-alone a relationship...Talk to a counsellor, because thoughts of suicide have deeper meaning. Be strong ok. It's not easy but it always has to get worse before it gets better...and it will get better.

Answer 7

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 8

l believe you feel your life with him for 13months was for nothing but guess what Sweetie what don't kill you only makes you stronger,Just remember that to take your own life is a sin and to boot what it would do to your parents and all that do love you,People brake up every day and think the word will end but it don't we just need to remember what we have been throw and not repeat it again or it was all for nothing,There is just one thing to say and all ways remember god would not give you more then you can handle,Plus he never closes one door with out open another,lt didn't work out because the sweet lord has some one better for you..Good luck Sweetie and before you do any harm to urself just remember that the people that will hurt the most are the people that truly love you not some one that's been in your life for only 13months..Bye and good luck...

Answer 9

NO ONE IS WORTH DYING FOR!!!!!!! it has been the same for me. but i lost my father 2 mo after i lost [broke up]the love of my life. I still miss them both terribly. but you know life does go on. I am still single I keep my heart well protected now days. I have family and kids that need me and love me very much so i have to stay strong for them.how would your family feel if they lost you? do you want them to feel as you do. you will get over this person he wasn't meant to be the one.you will move on eventually and look back how crazy this is.the only way to move on is to fix you.have friends and family around you alot.remember how much they need/want you in they're lives.go talk with a phycolisist.

Answer 10

Whether you kill yourself or not whoever has put you in this kind of state is moving on with his own life, so why will you kill yourself about the whole thing. Keep on making yourself busy and try as much as possible to always put his thought out of your mind, with time you will go over this situation. Remember, only time will heal your wound.