Hi,
I am living with my loving girlfriend. I am a guy, I have difficulty multitasking and can't think of different things at once.
My girlfriend LOVES to talk. She reads the news to me, she asks for advices a lot, etc. I love to hear her but the problem is that I CANNOT concentrate on anything as a result. I am worried that I am starting to become aloof and unresponsive to her because I need to preserve my ''bubble''. It's seems that it's either I stay ready for her all the time or I become very egotestical.
Has anyone else faced this dillema... I want to remain a full individual who takes care of himself while being able to communicate with her at the same time.
I have talked to her about that but obviously i can't ask her to stop talking to me, that's just not fair or fun.
any advice appreciated...
2006-10-15 04:14:26 · 3 answers · asked by Cuba L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The success of any relationship is to remain as individuals and be as one also...
There is a fine line between ego and aloofness....
Sounds like you are afraid of letting go too much... What are you afraid of??? If this relationship is not what you really want then go out and be alone....
So you can't multi-task, you wouldn't be the first person nor the last. Quit beatin yourself up and relax a little.
It almost sounds like her talking might burst your bubble of tuning her out...
Why are you staying ready for her all the time????
Put on your headphones and listen to music if you don't have the patience to listen all the time.
Be honest with her and tell her that you are not interested in discussing everything,
Maybe she should join a reading group, suggest it to her and encourage her... It might be just what she needs to vent her opinions... That would leave you with a little peace and quiet, that you so desperately need.
2006-10-15 04:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told her when you talked to her about how you can only concentrate on one thing at a time. Tell her that you need some time to concentrate on the task at hand and then you would be happy to go for a walk or have a coffee and just chat. Now if what you want to concentrate is posting online to other people you will have a problem with that one.
2006-10-15 04:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respond to her
men r born that way-one thing at a time
2006-10-15 04:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by dilemma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋