Do you get into fights with your siblings?

Question

Me and my sister can not get along. I want to get along with her but everytime i get ready to, she says something that triggers the past. What step do I take to try to forget about the past to move on?

I am 25 and I still get into these arguements with her from time to time. I have to say that it is me that has control over me getting upset. So I have to learn how to ignore certain things and just think about how to better myself so that I don't let the past bother me because really its over petty things but somethime I let little things get to me. I just have to use that to grow. I appreciate all of your answers.. Thank you

Answer 1

your ID says 81 so im guessing your 25 years old, are you not?

i have lots of siblings...as in lots. and we get into fights and kiss and make up. when they bait me, sometimes i respond negatively but in the end, this response always eats my conscience because i could have done otherwise. thankfully i have a relatively fast reaction time. when they bait me [and baitng me is so easy because i have low patience level], i try to think of those times that i have failed and have wanted so much to act otherwise. i take deep breathes. and just either neglect what they said or respond in kind. both of which, when done consistently would be noticed eventually by your sibling and she'll realize the change and hopefully ask why'd you change.

there was a time that i really confronted my sister and ended up crying because of the things she does, she cried too and apologized. i guess we always have to put things into perspective. try asking her why she does the things she does. if you don't like confronting her, write to her. whatever works your way.

Answer 2

I used to feel the same way when I was a little younger than I am now,I had four sisters,and 3 brothers,anyways there was just me,one brother,and one sister that never could seem to get along for the life of us!Well I was the type of person who always kept this perspective in mind: "Forgive,and Forget" but let me tell you something that's a very hard thing to do! It takes time and practice.I'm now 23 years old and my brother is 29,and my sister is now 18,and were all like the best of friends.It took me lots of time! I'd say about this year we all started getting along alot better but we still have some rough bumps that need fixed.
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Answer 3

Well yea I get in fights with my brother, it's just natural for siblings to fight. One of my friends once told me that it's a way of telling your sibling or siblings, that sometimes you need some space to yourself. Well to move on sometimes you need to try not to have the past as a trigger but as a memory, because your sister isn't always going to be there so when she says something that she knows is going to trigger you just tell her that "That was in the past." So you have to try to laugh at yourself, for what you did in the past, that's how you can move on. This way your sister knows that it doesn't bother you so much.


P.S.
I hope this makes sense to you. You can probably tell I have a strong bond with my brother.

Answer 4

There's no magic pill or something (unfortunately).
But when she says something that triggers the past, try to keep your mind busy with anything else besides it. You, and only you control your thoughts, so that shouldn't be a problem.
Also, I think you should tell her that it bothers you.

Answer 5

Siblings that fight in their childhood are known to be best friends in adulthood.