Ok, so, I've been with this guy, for about 6 months. (we're bth 17) I go over to his house a lot, and at first, finding stuff to do was a breeze. We'd play games, watch a movie.. but it seems now, he wants me to think of things that i want to do, and I just don't have the imagination to think of things, so we end up sitting there. Also, in our relationship, we've got pretty much to 3rd base. I'm not ready to have sex yet, and he knows it, but I can't think of anything else to spice our relationship up anymore with out going farther. I love him, but I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have any specific Ideas on problem #2? Something new to suprize him with?
2006-10-15 03:45:24 · 14 answers · asked by Jozzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, i'm not going to break up with him. We both love each other, and it would kill us both to end it. There's still flame there, I just want to keep it going before it burns out
2006-10-15 03:49:22 · update #1
WE ARE BOTH INTO EACH OTHER!!
2006-10-15 03:52:18 · update #2
There's lots of things you can do, sex-wise, to spice it up without actual penetration. Oral sex and the "pearl necklace" are just 2 that I can think of off the top of my head. Be on the lookout for new games that come out-there's lots of trivia games involving movies and music. The "loser" has to do whatever the winner wants (with one exceptionin your case). My husband and I used to play "strip poker" when we were dating (I always lost). You can also think spending a little more time apart-not breaking up, just give your friends a little more attention.
2006-10-15 03:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you should not have sex with someone when you aren't ready and to have sex just because you can' think of anything else to do is a big noooo.You are 17 there are many things that you can do ..find a common ground go out get out of your comfort zones a Little try something new..go to a gym together,go for a walk in the park, go to the movies,go to a chem free dance hall, go bowling..that sounds corny but if you do NoT bowl it can be quite fun and funny,take a class together like dance or art..live you are 17 there are plenty years to come before you need to tie yourself down..Good Luck
2006-10-15 03:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of someplace to go in your community that is free or nearly free and close by. A park for a picnic, window shopping at a ritzy store or a pet store is great. Go sightseeing, fishing. Does he have a favorite sport? Maybe go to a high school football game. Guys at this age are really into themselves. Play to his ego a little.
If this doesn't work maybe you need to rethink the relationship.
2006-10-15 03:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Rox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you cook? If so make him a meal. Special for just the two of you. Pick a movie and snuggle up. Going further is not the answer.
Go for walks, do not be afraid to talk. That is how you learn more about each other.
2006-10-15 03:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is a roller-coaster, which means there are ups and downs. In your case however, you are still too young to be worried about this! Take your time, wait until "whatever it is you figure out you want to do" comes naturally... I guarantee that as you get older there will be so much to do that you won't have a hard time choosing.
2006-10-15 03:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a strip club and strip or make out amirica is so much fun if u really want to then have sex go crazy dress like a s*** go out for movies but don't watch the movie makeout go on picnice, go swimming meat his family or let him meat ur family. lap dance around him if u really liked him u would have sex.
2006-10-15 03:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by prncess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like this and I got married. We have nothing in common, don't do a thing together at all and are miserable. Don't make yourself like or do certain things just to be around him. I did this and I am kicking myself for it now.
If you two are not that into one another, go seek some other hottie out there who will be your prince charming
2006-10-15 03:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have barbeques, picnics, go for walks, America is full of fun things to do, I wonder what you'd do in my town and country. Visit museums, go to the gym, etc
2006-10-15 03:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by tracey s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you could have sex with him but you shouldnt do that for just after 6 months give that some time you know just go out somewhere interesting or get to know his parents or something like that hope this works bye!
2006-10-15 03:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that' s the problem when you are both 17.
2006-10-15 03:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋