y do i tell people my problems and they all have the same advice? everyone tells me to just wait and keep being the way i am etc and a good girl will find me??? thats BS cause seriously u think if i just wait it'll come to me? i've been waiting my whole life and still have never gotten anything. i may not be old but i feel like i'm way past due on the whole dating thing....21 dont u agree? and i'm just suppose to wait for everything to happen....sorry but that makes no sense to me at all....if its always been this way y is it just gonna change one day? also people say work out etc etc....i do i'm tall dark and very athletic and all that good ****.....someone give me some real advice and not the same BS.
2006-10-15 03:33:14 · 17 answers · asked by mr_fury666 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good God, man.
You are 21!
Not 201!
Be patient!
Or start to ask girls out.
You know - things are not happen, we make them happen.
2006-10-15 03:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write to me with a problem and I'll give you some advice. I don't know why people give the same advice. I think they mean waiting for things to happen is to be pateint. Which let's admit we all have our moments don't we?. I think that you need to take whatever it is that is straining you and accept it for what it is and nothing more because you are the only one who can control the way you feel and certainly what you write. Try not to seem so mellowdramatic. Write to me if you need some heavy advice,..if you can handle it and not alk to anyone else like a child. By the way we all have our own situations and are trying to answer as best we can. Don't be a child because no one can give you what you want, that's life grow up and get out there. You make it happen for you no one else. breath,..IT IS WHAT IT IS.
cheers darlin
2006-10-15 03:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you need to relax! 21 isn't that old, you've just finished your teen years. Why do you want a relationship this badly? Clearly you're frustrated being single and are coming off as being desperate...women don't dig that. Why are you "waiting"? Because you're "tall, dark, athletic and that good ****",but you waiting...forget waiting and go make it happen. Are you confident in yourself? If you're not out there looking for her and rather, waiting for her to come "find" you, don't be pissed off with the advice people give you. Women love men who are confident, ask any woman on this site...post the question even...but stop being pissed with everyone's advice when you're not doing anything about it.
2006-10-15 03:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by coolguy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if u are 21 and look like u said something is wrong,if i were u I would go looking cause ma be u think u are to good for girl or ma be just ma be u are not sure of what u want.Or ma be u just want to be single and no problems.The girl want ask u if she a good one.So seriously u need to look inside of u to find what u really want.
2006-10-15 03:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think there is a warehouse that holds good women there that you can go to? I think what is meant by saying a good woman would find you is that when you do meet her, it will just happen. Going out and socializing is the only way you will meet anyone at all. Its up to who you choose to ask out and pursue a relationship.
Its very possible, since you may hold yourself up to such high regard, that your standards may be a tad high. And thats fine. But you have to have some compromise in there as well, since there is no such thing as the completely perfect woman.
2006-10-15 03:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I dont think just waiting around is going to get you a girl. You cant very well expect us to come running up to your door if we dont know you exist. Get out there and find someone worth having. And no, you dont have to change, because if you change then she isnt really dating you. Just be yourself and get your butt out of the house. Go to a club, a bar, a billiards room. Or, if you are looking for a woman with brains, go to a library or a convention. Figure out what you want and go out there and get it. Good luck to you.
2006-10-15 03:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just change ur attitudetowards the life and the life will change... just try 2 be happy and love ur life and dont think 'bout ur problems... and u ll be surprized how ur life will change after that... many of ur wishes will come true... u can wait all ur life or just 5 min... it all depends on you... if u ll be passive everything will be the same... im serious... try to change ur attitude towards the life.... do smth u enjoy... and try to forget 'bout ur problems!... and u ll c...
i know that cuz i had the same problem (well not exactly same..but kinda samish....) so i realized when im in a good mood, everything is the way i wanna it to be... things happen exactly i wanna ... and somehow new people appear in my life... that change it forever...
but as soon as i start think pessimistically... everything seems to fall apart... and it feels like i can do nothing about it...
but i know...it all just in our minds... so dont forget it s ur life and only u can change it!
so good luck! :)
2006-10-15 03:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Leah S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, being "yourself" obviously doesn't work, since you are apparently doing something wrong. Being fake doesn't work either, because people are going to find out the real you sooner or later.
You need to change the things about you that are causing you to fail at dating, and you probably need to change where you go to meet people.
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2006-10-15 03:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dam it isn't that hard, if u know u look good, den go out thre and start talking to different girls, go to clubs, alot of women/girls be there. Just start flirt'n then, and sooner or later u will find her. By sitting around u won't find her, just make urself noticeable. Maybe if u have a sister who is above the age of 17 or 18, then go hang out with some of her friends, and see what happen. JUST MAKE URSELF NOTICEABLE, START FLIRTING!!!!!!!!!! Hope my advice help ya out.
2006-10-15 03:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right those answers are bs! U sound as if u are a fine young man. Good girls are in church, and who says they don't look for the right guy there. Also, functions for young adults, get more involved and just be yourself and u seek out a young lady u think is good looking, intelligent, and good hearted. Young ladies are just as scared as u. Put yourself in the game I would bet on u if u appy yourself.
2006-10-15 03:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by vickie p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 20:41:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋