I am not getting any younger , I can lose a dress size but guys still call me sexy, but I only get asked out by jerks. There are two non-jerk guys that have asked me to be their girlfriend.
Guy#1 is 5'7" (I'm 5'9), smokes and his teeth show it, is a teacher (horrible pay, I am not a gold digger but I just don't want to take care of someone else even though I make twice as much), and is 15 years older than me which mean differences in music (I'm Nickleback and he is Otis Redding), art, places to go etc. He is a gentleman, very sweet, attentive, spry, and adores me.
Guy #2
He's 6'0", white (I'm black), has a child, lives with his mom, again I make twice as much, he's 6 years younger, hasn't smoked in two weeks (you guessed it - I don't smoke). He is a little immature but well mannered. Same taste in music, places to go etc.
It has been hard to find those two let alone anyone I can tolerate for a second date. I left my boyfriend of 6 years to move to this new town a year ago.
2006-10-15 03:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heck no don't settle, girl. Can you say "pre-divorce period of your life?" You've only been on your own a year!! Have you ever been able to BE ALONE and get to know YOU, do you and find out what you really want? It doesn't SOUND like it? What's your spiritual base like, girlie? Don't you know that you get what you expect? You train the world how to treat you by what you're attracted to, your character, your beliefs and what you are or aren't willing to SETTLE for. So, fall back a minute. Make a list and take things easy. You are still young and have time. That's right, you're young. Stop and think and believe that you can have the right person, not just the one that was the least messed up. You can do better. I did.
2006-10-15 03:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see either of those guys as being good for you, and neither do you! Why are you considering settling? Trust me, settle now and you'll be bored, miserable and sorry later. Stay single and be happy until you find someone that makes you happy all-around! What you need to do is learn how to be a happy single!
You're meeting all jerks because you are going to the same places. Go someplace different! Visit the museum, join a gym, get your kids involved in extra-curricular activities. Lots of men and single dads are out and about. You have to do the same. Do you have a female friend or two yet? If so, go with her and plan on having two nites out a month where you go to singles events. Any Greek chapters in your area? They are always having events...dinners, cruises, etc. What about church? Forget the guys, get you and your kids grounded in a good church where you can grow in the Lord. Find one with a children's ministry and singles ministry. You will meet other singles who are dealing with the same issues. They have events where you all can hang out and have fun together. Hey, you might even meet a single guy. Go on-line to your local paper. Many send email announcements each weekend about what is going on in the area. See what interests you and go!
I'm married, so I'm not looking. However, I get approached all the time (with and without the kids). You have to get out and be visible. Aside from meeting men, you will be enjoying life. Being happy will attract happy people! Good luck and don't settle!
2006-10-15 03:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would settle for no one, you might let the right one go if you settle. wait for someone you do like/love. life is to short to just settle and not really be happy.I have the same problem they are jerks and I'd prefer non smoking, and I make twice as much also, I am 40 and still single and I won't settle I want true love or nothing.and a guy that still lives with his mom is a loser.and a 50yr old ? that's your choices girl you need to get out more.I won't even date a 50 yr old they have a lower sex drive and usually have the old man belly and smoking turns me off I don't like kissing a ashtray.just wait never just settle find love and happiness.
2006-10-15 03:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to settle!
Who wants to be left with a guy that adores her, but she feels no adoration for??
Girl, you've got your whole life to live! You'll find Mr. Right out there somewhere!!!
Look around, have fun with it! Maybe a year is long enough to wait!
Just make sure your kids are still a part of your life, and you're not turning a deaf ear to them when it comes to a guy.
Not to sound like I'm preaching, but kids are an incredibly important part of a person's life.
Hope this helps you!
2006-10-15 03:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sonic.Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a good idea to settle for anyone. In the long run you wont be happy if the feelings really aren't there.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-15 03:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by barbi316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise settling because then you could end up with somebody you can't stand. Also you need to check out guy #2's kid you definitly don't want to have to deal with a bey bey kid
2006-10-15 03:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree,if your ready to settle,take you time to find Mr. right,some one that you kids approve on,remember,the guy can't just want to be with you he has to accept your children,they are the filter in that process,good luck,i wish you the best!
2006-10-15 03:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by jose_valle76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, why settle!!??? Just have fun"dating" Life is short so enjoy life!!!!!!
2006-10-15 03:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why settle? What would you get out of it?
2006-10-15 03:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are your kids
care about raising them1st...your top priority
then care about who you want to bring into your life
getting older????okay....so what
children 1st
2006-10-15 03:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋