Feeds him M&Ms and ice cream all day, drives 30 mins to get McDonalds which he then won't eat, he HITS people and animals and she just laughs and says isn't he cute, he's three, my mom has aged 10 years since they moved in (without asking I might add, and without paying rent). The house is a pigsty, he's written all over the walls with permanent markers, he chased my mom with a knife yesterday, but Sister is very touchy and can be quite vicious when confronted.... Grandma doesn't want to offend... I want to smack the kid and my sister (not necessarily in that order!!!) She is returning to work and leaving the little guy with grandma next week, I fear for my mom's safety (she is 71). I have a 10 week old and a life of my own and can't be there 24/7.
Just venting I guess but any constructive ideas WELCOMED!!! I'm at the end of my rope (and grandma's too!!) and she is planning to stay here for at least six months, WE NEED HELP
2006-10-15 03:14:55 · 6 answers · asked by Samlet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This could be my life! My daughter and grandson moved in with me and my new husband and his kids. My grandson was an animal. His mother did not work and did nothing to help out with the house or bills. I finally had to give her an ultimatum- get you s... together or you get out and the child stays. She took my grandson to a homeless shelter and then sent him to her Uncle. My brother couldn't handle him so he sent him back to me. I finally had to go to court and get Guardianship of him. His mom sees him once a week- if she can "find the time". He is in preschool and doing much, much better.
Your mom has to put her foot down or you do. Call you state child protective service. Your nephew is being neglected. His behavior shows a lot of anger and aggression. Please, tell your sister she needs to start thinking of someone other than herself. If something isn't done soon it will be to late for your nephew.
2006-10-15 04:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by drammy22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he have any physical markings to support that? It's hard because 3 year olds do not communicate the way adults do--they say things that don't always mean what we think they do, they look for attention, etc. BUT, I would take a step back and look at the big picture. Do you have other reasons to believe this to be true? Is this the first time the 3 yr old said this? Is there a consistent pattern to what is happening? As a youth specialist who works with abused and neglected children, I would do what my gut feeling told me to do--and that would mean looking at the WHOLE picture and seeing if the hitting comment fit into a pattern of what seems to be abuse. If not, then I would bring up the comment to the mom and tell her you are concerned and see what she says. That conversation may lend more credence to the comment or dispel it for you. If the comment when viewed in the bigger picture just adds suspicision to what may be an already questionable envirnoment, then call CPS and report what you know. CPS will keep your report confidential. Since only you know the big picture here, you are the one that needs to decide to act on this or not.
2016-03-28 10:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for the suffering to end. The reality sounds like your sister is not exercising any control over her child and the kid is becoming a monster. It will only get worse but that is her responsibility, not yours. You all need to come together on a united front. Set very clear and absolute boundaries (no hitting, no marking walls, etc.) Let your sister know that if these boundaries are broken, she and Jr. will have to go. You can not let your lives be ruined by an out of control baby and a confused mother. He needs discipline fast and she needs to wake up and take charge of her life. As for you and the family: you need to stand up and take control of this situation before it destroys you any more.
2006-10-15 03:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey be grateful your mom isn't 71 and taking care of 4 kids.My brother is doing the same thing except he just leaves the kids there and lives with his gf.So I have tried to talk my mom out of taking care of them.But it comes down to your mom making the choose.I guess you could talk to your sister and tell her she could use some parenting classes.Good luck
2006-10-15 03:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I pity you! Put the little demon in a room with all he needs and leave him there. Sounds like he needs some discipline too. I would start by busting his little ***!
2006-10-15 03:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur possessive of ur mom.
he is dividing ur love from Mom.
it will tke time to grow up.
so
change urself
u also did everything what ur sisters son doing
Grow up
2006-10-15 03:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by dilemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋