how do i get my 6 yr old son and my 3 yr old daughter to stop yelling and fighting?

Question

they can't get along. They fight over my attention, toys, even who gets to sit down first in their car seats. I try not to lose it but its a constant thing. They are smart, great kids. They are wonderfully well behaved when they are alone.

Answer 1

Take time for each one individually at times. Maybe once a week make it mommy son special time and do something and another time make it mommy daughter special time.

Answer 2

They are siblings. It's their birthright LOL. Just wait it continues long into their teens and maybe even beyond. That's one of the "joys" of having more than one child. You can do what a friend of our family used to do...she had 6 kids. When a couple or ALL of them would be fighting in the house she would tell them to take it outside because she didn't want blood on the carpet. If one of the kids calimed to have been hurt she would ask if it involved a protruding broken bone or an arterey, if not "put a bandaid on it". When one came a tatteling she would say "That's nice now go fight" . It comes with the territory, they ARE fighting for your attention, and you are giving it to them so they will CONTINUE to fight untill it is frutiless (until they no longer get your attention...get the hint?)

Answer 3

I get the same thing I have 5 year old twins, and a 12 year old, it seems like as soon as they are together after school etc I just can count the seconds untill there is some kind of argument or yelling at each other ... and it is about everything ... from tv shows, to who get the glass with the most soda in it, to who sleeps with which blanket.... anything and everything... I dont remember arguing that much with my brother and sister.... I usually just try and seperate them in different rooms... but then one of them goes to the other door and starts banging on it.... i am so tired of hearing crying and name calling to each other and then always... mommy ... so and so did this to me... then the other runs in the room to tell their side of it....

To answer the question ... I dont know what to do.. seperate them and hope for the best. If I know that mine are arguing over somthign that one of them really did do wrong i punish by taking somthing away from them ...

Answer 4

i too had this problem when my kids were young, and now that they are 13 and 17 they still have their little fights. you said that they fight for your attention. well then you need to give each of them their own time every day. set aside when you can spend time with the one then the other. and don't allow the one that you are not spending the time with at that moment to interrupt. you also need to spend the time with the three of you together. you said they fight over who gets in their car seats first. i have no idea what kind of car that you have but i would open the door allow them to climb up into their own car seat and you need to take turns as to who you buckle in first. may i also say that if you are not going any where that you absolutely need to go, when this happens tell them to get out of the car that because of their behavior you have decided not to go. siblings are always going to fight, not much you can do about that. but you can be the one that makes it so that occurs less often. you also need to set punishment for when this does occur. not with one child or the other, with both no matter who started it. good luck!!

Answer 5

Its really easy , just tell them you will buy them a gift , only if behave themself try doing some points system when ever they fight and start to yell they will get 5 points each time .
The one with the most points will not get the gift from you .
Put up a chart on the wall so they will see it for themself .

It will work for u for sure , good luck, from mr rocking .

Answer 6

be creative with the activities you provide them three yr olds are at a very different stage than 6 yr olds when it comes to stimulating theyr minds get them involved in stuff they individually enjoy and try physical seperation for each during theese activities but most important of all be sure to let them play together physically as much as possible on a daily basis IE: park or school playground good luck

Answer 7

if you put in place the belt law your problems will be solved . my mother had 10 children yes ten and each of us swear by the belt law as it has made us productive citizens in may countries around the wolrd . the belt law is simply this you walk around with a good leather belt around your neck and the first child that starts to act up you spank the two of them but the real trouble maker gets an extra one for starting the fruckus. now i no you americans beleive in the time out and the new age way of not administering punishment you think it to be barberic and third world like , so if that is your way of doing things then continue doing it that way and stop complaining . children need to be spanked to drive those damn demons out of them spank there a.sses that is the only answer to your problem failure to do this will cause either one to hurt one another or resent you for not being the dicipline figure that should be. restore law and order in the home .the belt the bible tells us draws out the destructive spirits that posses these rotten kids my answer to you is to tear that a. ss up , like now go in there rooms right now and start wailing those behinds go on go now what are you waiting on go .

Answer 8

hmmmmmmm now let me think about that i have 4 boys and they all fight and yell at each other so good luck but on the other hand they stick up for each other too if its against outsiders i think you have to learn to close your ears and let them grow up and eventually love each other, but one thing i will advice is at times listen and sort of sneak a peak because for a long time i would listen and think my 7 yr old was getting a raw deal and getting picked on by the other boys but i snook a look one day and realised that he was antagonising them and that he was dramatising stuff.one day they will all get along hopefully

Answer 9

My daughter has two boys who are one year and two days apart and the fighting is horrible; headlocks, pulldowns, slap face, punch, kick and the youngest is heavier and bigger than big brother. When my kids were little I told them no fighting and they would have to deal with me....I had one girl and a boy...they loved each other and I did not have floor fights...I hate to babysit my grandkids!

Answer 10

Maybe that's how they get along. Mines do it all the time and it drives me crazy. One minute there fighting and the next there playing. I guess that's kids for you.