By extended family, im talking about some of my cousins and aunts. Me, my brother, my mother and father have no problems with her dating outside her race. My sister is 33 years old. I feel that as long as he treats her right, i have no problem with dating outside race. And he treats her like a queen.
2006-10-15 02:56:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with ya. If she's happy, then people should be happy for her.
2006-10-15 02:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They may simply feel upset because many people feel it doesnt 'look' right. Say your sister had children with this man,and he was going shopping and took them with. You would see a pale skinned man with dark children. A lot of people are bothered by that. I know that was the biggest thing when I was a kid(Im biracial). I dont think there is anything wrong with it. Love is pure and untainted, it doesnt look at color first. I think if she is comfortable dating outside her race, then go for it. Maybe she should let those members of your family get to know him. Im sure once they know he is a good man they will be likely to accept him.
2006-10-15 10:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel you. Im going though the same thing myself. If a man is a man, who cares what color he is. We all chose to be with a man for a reason, and Im sure your sister doesnt choose them because they are WHITE. Maybe its a certain stlye, mood, or interest your sister is looking for, and so far, these types of traits shes looking for have been found, but in white guys. Your sister needs to put her foot down and tell the family that they need to stop being so ignorant. Any guy can hurt her, a black one or a white one. Its so annoying how ignrant people can be.
2006-10-15 10:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brown Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately not everyone is as open minded and anti-racial as you and your immediate family - Im happy she has found someone who loves her no matter what his race is - to be happy your sister just has to follow her heart and as she has your support I dont think she should take to heart what the extended family has to say about it. I know some people find the opinions of their entire family important but honestly if she has been dating white men for years then I dont think she will take the negative opinions to heart and she will follow her own dreams - all I can say is continue to be happy for her and support her when your other relatives speak negatively about it all.
2006-10-15 10:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
many people will not be accepting of who you choose as company, that's just true for everyone .I would advise you to tell your sister that she needs to let the family know how pressure from within the family cannot force her make an unwise decision. If they both truly care for eachother and no abuse is taking place then, accept that the people in our live that can disapprove of us the most are our families, simply because they are concerned or had an unpleasent prior expericence. Just talk it over and things will work out.I belive they are just too afriad because the've been hurt and that's understandable.
2006-10-15 10:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Euclid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, hon. Some of your extended family have racist issues is all. They haven't forgiven a whole race for the ills of a few, mostly dead oppressors. But what's up... your sister ONLY dates white men? Doesn't she like the brothers AT ALL? Well, to each his own. Okay, Zone 3 Boy. Lata.
2006-10-15 09:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some people have hang ups about this and feel it isn't right. I personally think that the persecution would keep me at bay, It is alot more common than what is used to be but it is still very taboo in alot of places. Good luck.
2006-10-15 10:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the same old predjudice. It's deep down and ingrained in some people. even if they don't discriminate, it seems to hit closer to home when it's in the family. more's the sham, but it happens. My niece had a baby with her boyfriend, and like you say, he treats her well. I, nor my brother(her father) have a problem with it, but her mother freaked....until she held that grandchild in her arms...then it all went away. lol
2006-10-15 10:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dated an asian girl for awhile. Her parents were nasty to me because I am white. She's dating a black guy now, and her parents hate that even more, she tells me. Racism takes many forms. It's harder when the family doesn't like it, but if she is happy, that's the important thing.
2006-10-15 10:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by rabid_scientist 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a problem with it but that wasn't your question.
You asked "Why do some in my extended family not like this? "
-racism is a harsh word but it comes in all colours
2006-10-15 10:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It must be a pride thing with black men. A friend of mine is black and said he sees no problem with black men dating white women, but feels it is a slap in the face to see a black woman with a white man. I asked him what the difference was and he said it was a black pride thing, and I wouldn't understand. I said yeah, whatever dude. Anyway, maybe that is it. I don't see any problem with it either way.
2006-10-15 10:00:56 · answer #11 · answered by tko43078 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋