im a 28 year old male from malaysia. im a physically challenged by polio frm my childhood. i have no parents. im living with my sister's family. due to some family n finacial problem, i couldnt able to do my undergraduation degree 9 yrs ago.
currently im doing degree thru correspondence. at my age, my frns are well settled and earning well. but im not....i feel inferiority complex...i feel lonely......even my sister's family is considering me as a burden...i dont know wat to do.
i feel very much sad, worry and fear thinking about my present n future...pls help me with proper answers.
due to this inferiority complex, fears and worries, i am not able to study well, im not able to concentrate on my positive sides.....i do procrastinate everything i have to do.....i feel very depressed....i have no hope......i dont know wat to do...pls help me
2006-10-15 02:50:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Think of what you need to do and make a list. Set a timer for 15 minutes and tackle one project. Then, set the timer for another 15 minutes and tackle another project. Repeat. For the last 15 minutes of the hour, take time to do something you enjoy and also to look at what you have accomplished so far.
2006-10-15 02:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Aunty Social 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't compare yourself to your friends. You have a different set of circumstances and it sounds like you are doing good. You're getting a degree and that's a step in the right direction.
If your sister's family is making you feel like a burden, is there somewhere else you can go? I don't know much about Malaysia, but in the states there are group homes and facilities for people to live that aren't able to live alone. If you are feeling depressed, seek counseling. There is always hope.
2006-10-15 09:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel down just thinhk of the fact that nothing lasts forever.Neither your present situation.Try,if you can,to help your sister so that she can't say you are a problem for her even if a nice sister should consider your situation instaed of blaming you.Things change,it 's only a matter of time and soon or late you will find something positive in your life.Don't get gown but try to hope and be patient.All in all I think that only a few people are really happy.Do not compare your life with the others.You might not know what they are hiding and what they fears are.Everybody misses something .Just keep hoping and help yourself trying to love yourself more.
2006-10-15 09:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Brenno 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry i think its time for you to travel, finish your degree in another country. give your sister a break, you sound like you are well capable of living your life with out these worries. they will be proud of you for standing on your own two feet. It is not that your sister does not love you, it is just that i think she is thinking of her future too, and she finds it difficult to move on as she is not sure what you planning or when you will stand on your own with out her.
the good news is your physical condition is not going to stop you. there are a lot of people who have been affeced by polio nd have just simply given up.
look into travelling , if you are having a parttime job, start saving up for a ticket and a way out - a new beginning is what you need, and it will get rid of your fear. Remember that god is always holding your hand, so there is nothing stopping you from living your life to the full.
for example malaisians can travel to ireland with out a visa please take a look at this website,http://www.oasis.gov.ie/employment/working_in_ireland/work_visas_authorise.html
the nice thing is if you choose to study you can work , which covers you rent food and fees, you can also have a look on the internet for uk, america or australia.
do not ever feel trapped and alone. friends are all around you, you just need to open your eyes.
since you say you are corresponding, get a travelling working visa , where you can still keep up to date with your degree but see other cultures and countries too. and a traveling uk visa has helped my sister that is why i believe you can do it too.
let me know if you need furhter information.
good luck
2006-10-15 10:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by candystore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to live your life the way your parents would want you to. if you have one parent that you were closer to ... imagine what they would say to you to keep you going and encourage you.
write it down .. and keep reading their advice and pray to them. thank them for their love and you'll find you'll love yourself even more...
as hard as it is... try not to compare yourself to your friends...
have faith that you are exactly where you are meant to be... god doesnt make junk and he is always there for you. pray to him and he will help you discover a window where you thought there was a concrete door...
write a letter to your sister and let her know that you appreciate everything she has done for you... sometimes a bit of gratitude can open peoples hearts and change perspective.
read as much as you can about self esteem and staying positive... i spend alot of my time on here doing that and it does sink in eventually.
talk to your friends about how you feel... they can help you see the light, because they probably struggled as much as you have with school and staying on track.... if they havent struggled as much, they'll love you through this struggle. all it takes is a bit of honesty and you be surprised how many friends are there for you.
believe in yourself!
if you love life, life will love you back.
2006-10-15 10:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋